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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think that at least some of these jabs at SAH moms really are about class envy. In my heart of hearts--and I don't feel proud of this assumption--but when I see lexus SUV driving, well educated, well coiffed, SAH moms hitting the gym for their yoga class, I realize that there is a part of me that is simply envious about the economic freedom that choice seems to represent. Its not that I want to SAH (and not that I resent DH because he doesn't make enough for me to SAH), its that the choice to SAH seems to represent a fair amount of economic freedom. I know that is not the case--that in some families there is a real financial sacrifice (and in some cases it is a wash--in mine, my salary is not much greater than my childcare costs)--but I think that what fuels some of the jabs at SAH mothers (really the dads dont get this much criticism lobbed at them) it's not really about them conforming to some stereotype so much as it is about money. so yeah, if I were to be dismissive of a SAHM, its not because I don't respect her choice--its probably because I'm envious that she had the choice and I don't. [/quote]

Nope. I don't respect it.  dH makes $350k+/year so I could easily stay home, but it's a dynamic we don't choose for our family.  Kids are better off with a WAH mom that is fulfilled and that extra $150k I bring to the table is great spending $.  I pick up and drop off kids e eryday from school so I have same hours with my kids as any SAHm so I don't but the bullshit excuses.[/quote]

Your scenario sounds fantastic.  I am a SAHM and would love to WAH during school hours when DCs are in school full time.  Just curious, before your DCs were in school, did you WAH too?  Unfortunately, telecommuting or WAH opportunities are not available in abundance or are not totally mainstream in a lot of industries (I hope you don't find this to be a BS excuse)  - the industry I left involved long hours and travel.  I have enough of a skill set that I could do a subset of the work I used to do - but setting up the home office, putting myself out there after being absent for a few years, organizing myself enough to be ready to go out and form a base of clients - seems so daunting while still caring for kids that are not in school yet.  I wish there were more resources/mentors to help guide SAHM to re-create what they used to do into something more family friendly.  I know I could sure use some guidance.

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