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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’m 37 and single. I’ve been trying I find a certain type of woman and just haven’t. You can say I’m looking for a 1950’s housewife. I don’t expect a servant or anything like that, but I wanted a woman who wants to stay at home taking care of her kids and husband. I’m looking for a woman who wants to take care of raising the kids and responsibilities of the household, while I work and manage things like finances. Most of the women I meet want to be a SAHM only short-term, or want to be a SAHM but expect the man to be a 50/50 partner in childcare and household responsibilities. I’m looking for a woman who can handle the bulk of it. How do I find a woman like this? [/quote]

it seems like most of the responses here are from the typical DCUM demographics and that is not what you are looking for. The women who want to be SAHM are most likely not on a forum like DCUM. but there are plenty of such women out there. I was in a similar situation as you, just 3-4 years younger. I found the right person, who was well educated, masters degree, spoke 5 languages, had a solid career but wanted to be SAHM. We are almost at the 12 yr mark. Two happy kids. Now my wife does work a few hours a week - doing some basic administrative work for our businesses but is by no means driven by career etc. She does bulk of the household chores (90-95%) although when it comes to kids stuff I think I am putting in 30-50% depending on the week. Especially things like homework, afterschool activities, going to park playing etc. I love to do that and its time my wife takes a break.

You need to do this: be very upfront with what you are looking for when you date. Not necessarily first date conversation but definitely bring it up very early in relationship. If you are dating online, include information about what you are looking for in your profile. don't be afraid to put it out there, it will weed out the ones who are not compatible with your point of view but it will likely attract others who are looking for something similar. It might help to work with professional matchmakers who work one-on-one with prospects. The individual matchmakers can have the difficult conversations that you will be uncomfortable with. That will help to bypass the women who have different expectations than yours.

Finally, have a reasonable prenup. Not what you think its reasonable for you but what is reasonable for someone who is going to give up a lot and be dependent on you.

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OP here. This is what I’m looking for too. [/quote]

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