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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I take offense to what has been said here. My children get praise for effort. If they try their hardest and get a C on a project I will be happier than if they got an A for pissing around until the last minute and throwing something together.

I'm not going to put my child on a pedestal if they get all As and they didn't do any homework and aced the tests anyways. Some gifted kids can do just that year after year. If I did praise them for those As what would that teach them? That they are so freaking special they can just sit on their ass and do nothing and get their names on the honor roll simply because they showed up? No thank you.

That being said I'm going to make sure they ARE challenged adequately so the above scenarios won't play out anyways. And THAT was my whole point anyways.  I think that sounds pretty reasonable and level headed, right?  Don't most parents agree with this? I mean you wouldn't want to shower a third grader with praise for knowing the alphabet.

I can't believe that you guys are so worked up that you are still blathering on.

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I actually agree with you on this.  I'm the NMSSF with kids in magnets. My kids don't know whether they are "smart" because I never told them their IQs, just like my parents never told me my IQ. I suspect my kids have their own suspicions, because they have friends who didn't get into the magnets, but they don't know the results from either magnet or private school testing.  But in any case, my mom (who belongs to MENSA) explained her reasoning once:  if I found out my IQ was really high I'd stop trying, and if I found out it was really low, I'd also probably stop trying.

My mom rewarded effort, and that's what I do with my kids.  I also believe that persistence and motivation are as important in success as IQ, and rewarding effort helps with kids learn to be persistent.

I'm no sure why you're taking "offense."  I do "take offense," however, at your idea that it's we who are blathering on.  It takes two to tango, and you've been participating all along![/quote]

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