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[quote=Anonymous]"You don't agree that a husband's main family once married is his wife? You really think parents/siblings are still his main family and not his wife? That he should prioritize them over his wife? I didn't realize he made vows with his parents and siblings or that he was sharing his life and house with them or having children with them? My bad."

NP: I think the implication that you only have value as a baby making machine is odd. But perhaps what they mean is that once you have something she wants - access to a grandchild - she'll stop treating you like crap? Unsure, since I didn't write that.

I think where you're just going so wrong OP is that it's so black and white for you. People don't just stop being primary members of their families of origin because they got married. Something went south with your MIL, no doubt. Either you created it or she did, or you both did. Either way, YOU are pitting your husband against your MIL just as much as you say she is pitting your husband against you. Every time you essentially imply, or actually state outright, that you have more value to him and are more important to him. That's not a given, and the more you dig in, the more she'll dig in, and on it goes.

Someone upthread said why not address it head on - "Hey, MIL, something feels off to me about why I'm not invited. It feels intentionally insulting, and I want to figure out what went wrong and how we can fix it." Instead, you're wanting to just "win" because you got married. 
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