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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I don't think a baby and a toddler/preschooler should have one caregiver. Their needs and schedules are just too different. The preschooler should be out socializing, while the baby should be napping at home. This is why I have a nanny + my mom.[/quote]

My kids are close and are empathetic to each other because they were with each other and had to accommodate each other.  In the situation you are describing, you should be sure that you are working on empathy with your older child.  [/quote]

My older child has a ton of empathy and EQ. Demonstrated it well before the younger one was even born. Some people are born with those qualities. They don't need to be subject to a sub-par caregiving situation to develop them.[/quote]

I should have chosen my words better and not offended you. I apologize.   Empathy is not a one time thing.  You have to keep having conversations and highlighting that it is important to your family as your kids grow and go through new developmental changes.  A sibling relationship and learning empathy through having a young sibling is a gift, and definitely not one all kids can have.  All kids can't be younger siblings!  Your caregiving situation is fine but what I was pointing out is that there are tradeoffs with all situations and as parents, we make the best choices we can and then we work to make up for the shortfalls because no situation is perfect.  You have a good situation and that is great.  Someone who is home with their children and juggling a preschooler and a baby may also be making the best choice they can for their situation.  There is no one right answer and there is no situation that doesn't have shortcomings.  The key is to identify those and adjust for them.

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