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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Someone who’s a size 16 is probably not affecting your life. Not spilling into the next airplane seat, not flipping out bc of the size of the seats in the movie theater, and not having a heart attack during a 5k or using the squat bar at the gym.

Also, stop saying that thin women are genetically blessed or totally disordered. That’s equally terrible.

[b]Maybe if a body was just a body and people didn’t feel judged, shamed, or defensive, we’d all be more motivated to optimize our health.[/b]

I’ve been thin and I’ve been fat and I’ve been thin again. The objectification never stops, just swings from positive to negative and back to positive.

[b]But OP, this is what I think: you can be healthiER at any size. [/b]

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This is precisely what the fat acceptance/HAES is about - shaming fat people just makes them feel ashamed and encourages weight gain. Studies show this. Fat acceptance/body positive/HAES says you aren’t disgusting and you deserve to treat your body well, to exercise, to go and play with your kids, to swim in a pool, to dress stylishly, to embrace yourself and be happy. To be kind to yourself and be happy in the body you’re in.[/quote]

Weight management RDN again: If this was ALL that fat acceptance/ HAES promoted, or if it was simply a starting point of an idea, then it would be fine. Of course, no one should view themselves or anyone else as "disgusting" and EVERYONE "deserves" to treat their body well.  But the problem is, too many people stop here. Treat your body well, in the case of obesity, absolutely means that you need to lose weight.

I personally find HAES to be a very damaging and potentially dangerous policy. It also takes RDNs out of our scope of training. We are not shrinks, and we are not supposed to be validating people's feelings. As the only health care professionals who study the science of nutrition exclusively, we have an obligation to tell our patients the truth, and help them come to a place where they can make the changes they need to improve their health.[/quote]
Sure. Do that, but double check the science this time around as those last sixty years of low fat nonsense are the reason 80% of them are in need of your services anyway.

If your practice of not “validating people’s feelings” is typical of your field, as is epidemic as the dogmatic low fat advice (still, contra all the evidence), may I never need your services. Helping patients feel understood, or as you condescendingly misunderstand it, “being a shrink,” is one of the most important thing any caregiver does. It’s called building a relationship with your patient. If you had a morbidly obese patient who was eating himself into an early grave because of devastating childhood sexual abuse, that should perhaps inform how you deal with him, no? Or would you just scold him for not following the diet you recommmend?[/quote]

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