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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I get it, you wanted to punish her, and maybe she deserves it, but in the end you have to think about if your actions are contributing to the dysfunctions in your relationship or changing things, and by saying what you did, you heightened her insecurities, hurt her feelings, etc. it didn’t help.[/quote]

OP here. True. It wasn't a script I had written in advance... [/quote]

Did you apologize?[/quote]

OP here. I did not. I did say I was sorry I hurt her, but I did not apologize for the content of my words. I am very much struggling with myself regarding my own feelings on that. I feel that once I've been "left to take care of my own needs", and she's shown no desire to be a part of that (and I would not want to force it upon her if it's against her will)... then this is one aspect of our life that we no longer do as a couple. So... while I can't demand anything of her - it goes both ways... at least that's how I sometimes feel. It's not exactly how I would have wished our relationship to be.[/quote]

So you acknowledge your behavior was shitty but defend it as not really wrong because she made you do it. Dude, you're a jackass, no wonder she won't sleep with you.[/quote]

Oh FFS - OP sounds pretty thoughtful and self-aware to me. He’s struggling, and acknowledges that, and recognizes that he spoke in hurt and anger. There are some PPa who are projecting all kinds of s**t on the OP, to the extent that it’s clear it’s not about this OP at all. They should start their own thread, and get off this one.[/quote]

So what? He did something shitty to her, and rather than own that and apologize, he blamed her for it. There is no way that's the first time he's done that, it's not okay, and showing the kind of contempt for your partner that OP showed there can absolutely kill any willingness your partner might have to have sex with you. As said previously, OP has some degree of role in this. Maybe now we've found it.[b] When OP isn't happy with some aspect of his life, he dumps on his wife and then blames her for it[/b][u].[/quote]

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Exactly what is going on here. [/quote]

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