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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm still stuck on a grandparent inviting a grandkid for 2 weeks, and intentionally making things she knows the kid won't like.  Everything else is just noise compared to this.  If you had an adult houseguest for 2 weeks, would you make things you know she doesn't like?  Of course not.  OP is a shitty grandparent, and a shitty person.  [/quote]

I'm sure you're Grandparent of the Year. *Slow clap*[/quote]

"Make food you know your guest (and everyone else) likes, and don't make food you know your grandkid won't like" is not sufficient to be grandparent of the year.  It's the bare minimum for decent behavior.  No one is suggesting that you become a short order cook.  [b]What we are suggesting is that it'll be fairly easy to determine what meals he likes, and . . . make them for everyone.[/b] Make dinners that everyone likes.  This is not rocket science.

Instead, your approach seems to be, "I am going to make what I want, even though I *know* he won't like it.  And I'm going to use this opportunity to preemptively scold him for being a picky eater."  And yes, this makes you a shitty host, and yes, a shitty person.  That you either refuse to see or acknowledge this is a whole other issue.  [/quote]

[b]The kid has an extremely limited list of items that he'll eat. Unless OP and her husband is willing to limit themselves to pizza (and no vegetables) every night, that's not going to work. If OP wants to eat normally and 100% accommodate kid's pickiness, then she basically has to make two separate meals. [/b]In other words, be a short order cook.

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How did you invent this from what OP posted?[/quote]

Because that is actually OP sock puppeting.  [/quote]

No, it's not. That's just I interpreted OP's statements. I read it to mean that the kid was only willing to eat a small list of stereotypical American foods (pizza, hamburger, chicken nuggets).  Maybe OP can clarify exactly what she means. But I highly doubt that the kid willing to eat California or new American foods- both of which would fall under the umbrella of  American cuisine. [/quote]

Nein. ;)

[b]She said he only eats American food (not unusual for [i]any[/i] kid of [i]any[/i] heritage to only eat the food he is accustomed to,[/b] and that he picks veggies out when they are mixed into food.  Again, not unusual for a kid to eat around veggies cooked into other foods.

She poopoo'd grandpas soloution of having a few frozen pizzas on hand just in case.

OP also said the is going to lay down the law as soon as the kid arrives, making zero attempt to be a good hostess or indulgent grandma.  Who does that kind of thing to a guest?

The issue is OP. Not the kid.

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You missed my point. American cuisine varies depending on the region. Traditional southern food is differs from Cali food (which includes a lot of Asian and Mexican influences). American food in the northeast has a lot of Italian and Jewish influences. Does OP mean that the kid will eat any food that falls under the umbrella of American cuisine? In that case, OP would be wrong since she has a wide range of options to choose from. Or does OP mean that he will only eat what we think of as stereotypical American foods (pizza, burger, nuggets, etc)? I assumed that it was the latter meaning. I could be wrong but I doubt it. [/quote]

OP here. Yes, I meant the stereotypical American foods like pizza, burgers, meatloaf, mac and cheese, spaghetti and meatballs...which we can make but not for two whole weeks! We do consume foods like that but once in a while. I don't know why people had to start criticizing German food but just because I'm German doesn't mean that I usually make German food. I like to cook Korean, Vietnamese, French, Italian (real Italian...like with anchovies and a ton of garlic) and Chinese foods. I do have spätzle in my pantry and I can make one or two German dishes but that's it. I'm very sad with some of the remarks here making me out to be a monster and I am not wanting to fight with the boy. Just to teach him some manners. Is that so wrong? [/quote]

So much to unpack here.  First, you named five general dishes that he likes, and I am quite sure there are several others you could come up with if you put your mind to it.  So, make them.  It won't kill you to refrain from making Korean, Vietnamese, etc. for a couple of weeks.  He's not staying the summer.  Make his stay pleasant.

Second, it is unclear whether you are taking this stand because you are incredibly rigid and refuse to alter your menu, or because you want to provoke a confrontation and "teach him some manners."  If it's the former, grow up.  If it's the later, you can help teach him manners without going to these measures.  Your plan is to make food you *know* he doesn't like (when there are plenty of foods you know he does like) in order to get him to refuse to eat it so you can chastise him for not eating it.  Think about that for a second.  [/quote]

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