Anonymous wrote:I think it says more about Americans that they would berate a non-American host for not wanting to give in to some spoiled brat. Anyone agree? The only voices of dissent seem to come from people who grew up elsewhere and understand that cooking food that a child doesn't like isn't child abuse.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still stuck on a grandparent inviting a grandkid for 2 weeks, and intentionally making things she knows the kid won't like. Everything else is just noise compared to this. If you had an adult houseguest for 2 weeks, would you make things you know she doesn't like? Of course not. OP is a shitty grandparent, and a shitty person.

I'm sure you're Grandparent of the Year. *Slow clap*

"Make food you know your guest (and everyone else) likes, and don't make food you know your grandkid won't like" is not sufficient to be grandparent of the year. It's the bare minimum for decent behavior. No one is suggesting that you become a short order cook. What we are suggesting is that it'll be fairly easy to determine what meals he likes, and . . . make them for everyone. Make dinners that everyone likes. This is not rocket science.

Instead, your approach seems to be, "I am going to make what I want, even though I *know* he won't like it. And I'm going to use this opportunity to preemptively scold him for being a picky eater." And yes, this makes you a shitty host, and yes, a shitty person. That you either refuse to see or acknowledge this is a whole other issue.

The kid has an extremely limited list of items that he'll eat. Unless OP and her husband is willing to limit themselves to pizza (and no vegetables) every night, that's not going to work. If OP wants to eat normally and 100% accommodate kid's pickiness, then she basically has to make two separate meals. In other words, be a short order cook.

How did you invent this from what OP posted?

Because that is actually OP sock puppeting.

No, it's not. That's just I interpreted OP's statements. I read it to mean that the kid was only willing to eat a small list of stereotypical American foods (pizza, hamburger, chicken nuggets). Maybe OP can clarify exactly what she means. But I highly doubt that the kid willing to eat California or new American foods- both of which would fall under the umbrella of American cuisine.

Nein.

She said he only eats American food (not unusual for any kid of any heritage to only eat the food he is accustomed to, and that he picks veggies out when they are mixed into food. Again, not unusual for a kid to eat around veggies cooked into other foods.

She poopoo'd grandpas soloution of having a few frozen pizzas on hand just in case.

OP also said the is going to lay down the law as soon as the kid arrives, making zero attempt to be a good hostess or indulgent grandma. Who does that kind of thing to a guest?

The issue is OP. Not the kid.

You missed my point. American cuisine varies depending on the region. Traditional southern food is differs from Cali food (which includes a lot of Asian and Mexican influences). American food in the northeast has a lot of Italian and Jewish influences. Does OP mean that the kid will eat any food that falls under the umbrella of American cuisine? In that case, OP would be wrong since she has a wide range of options to choose from. Or does OP mean that he will only eat what we think of as stereotypical American foods (pizza, burger, nuggets, etc)? I assumed that it was the latter meaning. I could be wrong but I doubt it.

OP here. Yes, I meant the stereotypical American foods like pizza, burgers, meatloaf, mac and cheese, spaghetti and meatballs...which we can make but not for two whole weeks! We do consume foods like that but once in a while. I don't know why people had to start criticizing German food but just because I'm German doesn't mean that I usually make German food. I like to cook Korean, Vietnamese, French, Italian (real Italian...like with anchovies and a ton of garlic) and Chinese foods. I do have spätzle in my pantry and I can make one or two German dishes but that's it. I'm very sad with some of the remarks here making me out to be a monster and I am not wanting to fight with the boy. Just to teach him some manners. Is that so wrong?

I'm very sad with some of the remarks here making me out to be a monster and I am not wanting to fight with the boy. Just to teach him some manners. Is that so wrong?

Anonymous wrote:OP, I think a typical American brat would probably like spätzle actually. It's basically just junk filler devoid of nutritional content like the rest of the crap that most kids eat here. Slather it with cheese (doesn't have to be good quality, they don't know the difference anyway) and bake it and it's basically mac & cheese. He'll love it.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm still stuck on a grandparent inviting a grandkid for 2 weeks, and intentionally making things she knows the kid won't like. Everything else is just noise compared to this. If you had an adult houseguest for 2 weeks, would you make things you know she doesn't like? Of course not. OP is a shitty grandparent, and a shitty person.

I'm sure you're Grandparent of the Year. *Slow clap*

"Make food you know your guest (and everyone else) likes, and don't make food you know your grandkid won't like" is not sufficient to be grandparent of the year. It's the bare minimum for decent behavior. No one is suggesting that you become a short order cook. What we are suggesting is that it'll be fairly easy to determine what meals he likes, and . . . make them for everyone. Make dinners that everyone likes. This is not rocket science.

Instead, your approach seems to be, "I am going to make what I want, even though I *know* he won't like it. And I'm going to use this opportunity to preemptively scold him for being a picky eater." And yes, this makes you a shitty host, and yes, a shitty person. That you either refuse to see or acknowledge this is a whole other issue.

The kid has an extremely limited list of items that he'll eat. Unless OP and her husband is willing to limit themselves to pizza (and no vegetables) every night, that's not going to work. If OP wants to eat normally and 100% accommodate kid's pickiness, then she basically has to make two separate meals. In other words, be a short order cook.

How did you invent this from what OP posted?

Because that is actually OP sock puppeting.

No, it's not. That's just I interpreted OP's statements. I read it to mean that the kid was only willing to eat a small list of stereotypical American foods (pizza, hamburger, chicken nuggets). Maybe OP can clarify exactly what she means. But I highly doubt that the kid willing to eat California or new American foods- both of which would fall under the umbrella of American cuisine.

Nein.

She said he only eats American food (not unusual for any kid of any heritage to only eat the food he is accustomed to, and that he picks veggies out when they are mixed into food. Again, not unusual for a kid to eat around veggies cooked into other foods.

She poopoo'd grandpas soloution of having a few frozen pizzas on hand just in case.

OP also said the is going to lay down the law as soon as the kid arrives, making zero attempt to be a good hostess or indulgent grandma. Who does that kind of thing to a guest?

The issue is OP. Not the kid.

You missed my point. American cuisine varies depending on the region. Traditional southern food is differs from Cali food (which includes a lot of Asian and Mexican influences). American food in the northeast has a lot of Italian and Jewish influences. Does OP mean that the kid will eat any food that falls under the umbrella of American cuisine? In that case, OP would be wrong since she has a wide range of options to choose from. Or does OP mean that he will only eat what we think of as stereotypical American foods (pizza, burger, nuggets, etc)? I assumed that it was the latter meaning. I could be wrong but I doubt it.

OP here. Yes, I meant the stereotypical American foods like pizza, burgers, meatloaf, mac and cheese, spaghetti and meatballs...which we can make but not for two whole weeks! We do consume foods like that but once in a while. I don't know why people had to start criticizing German food but just because I'm German doesn't mean that I usually make German food. I like to cook Korean, Vietnamese, French, Italian (real Italian...like with anchovies and a ton of garlic) and Chinese foods. I do have spätzle in my pantry and I can make one or two German dishes but that's it. I'm very sad with some of the remarks here making me out to be a monster and I am not wanting to fight with the boy. Just to teach him some manners. Is that so wrong?

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Anonymous wrote:"I'm very sad with some of the remarks here making me out to be a monster and I am not wanting to fight with the boy. Just to teach him some manners. Is that so wrong?"

Yep. That IS so wrong.

Because you are not his grandma, and you are not a trusted authority figure in his life. Literally no one wants you in the "Grandma" role; by your own admission, even you don't want that.

Your husband doesn't want you "teaching lessons," the child's parents don't want you "teaching lessons," and the child doesn't want you "teaching lessons."

Butt. Out. The child has two parents and at least one real grandparent. You need to be courteous and maybe even try to be--gasp!--a little fun.

Make some simple meals. Set them out. Don't monitor or nag. If he's still hungry, you can tell him he's free to make a PB&J.

If he complains, you can say, "Tim, that's not very nice. I won't force you to try anything, but I would appreciate if you kept your unkind thoughts to yourself." That's not "lesson-teaching," that's just standing up for yourelf in your own home. But only do that IF HE ACTUALLY SAYS SOMETHING.

You're spoiling for a fight. Stand down and let his real grandfather do any heavy lifting that needs to happen.

Personally, if I were OP, I would just cook for myself given how disrespectful this brat sounds. Let the grandfather handle his meals. I believe that if OP were a man, there wouldn't be so much outrage. But no, people call her all sorts of names from shitty to being a gold digger as if they are saints. Amazing how righteous people are online...

Nice trolling OP.

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Anonymous wrote:"I'm very sad with some of the remarks here making me out to be a monster and I am not wanting to fight with the boy. Just to teach him some manners. Is that so wrong?"

Yep. That IS so wrong.

Because you are not his grandma, and you are not a trusted authority figure in his life. Literally no one wants you in the "Grandma" role; by your own admission, even you don't want that.

Your husband doesn't want you "teaching lessons," the child's parents don't want you "teaching lessons," and the child doesn't want you "teaching lessons."

Butt. Out. The child has two parents and at least one real grandparent. You need to be courteous and maybe even try to be--gasp!--a little fun.

Make some simple meals. Set them out. Don't monitor or nag. If he's still hungry, you can tell him he's free to make a PB&J.

If he complains, you can say, "Tim, that's not very nice. I won't force you to try anything, but I would appreciate if you kept your unkind thoughts to yourself." That's not "lesson-teaching," that's just standing up for yourelf in your own home. But only do that IF HE ACTUALLY SAYS SOMETHING.

You're spoiling for a fight. Stand down and let his real grandfather do any heavy lifting that needs to happen.

Personally, if I were OP, I would just cook for myself given how disrespectful this brat sounds. Let the grandfather handle his meals. I believe that if OP were a man, there wouldn't be so much outrage. But no, people call her all sorts of names from shitty to being a gold digger as if they are saints. Amazing how righteous people are online...

Anonymous wrote:I think it says more about Americans that they would berate a non-American host for not wanting to give in to some spoiled brat. Anyone agree? The only voices of dissent seem to come from people who grew up elsewhere and understand that cooking food that a child doesn't like isn't child abuse.

Anonymous wrote:I think it says more about Americans that they would berate a non-American host for not wanting to give in to some spoiled brat. Anyone agree? The only voices of dissent seem to come from people who grew up elsewhere and understand that cooking food that a child doesn't like isn't child abuse.

Anonymous wrote:"I'm very sad with some of the remarks here making me out to be a monster and I am not wanting to fight with the boy. Just to teach him some manners. Is that so wrong?"

Yep. That IS so wrong.

Because you are not his grandma, and you are not a trusted authority figure in his life. Literally no one wants you in the "Grandma" role; by your own admission, even you don't want that.

Your husband doesn't want you "teaching lessons," the child's parents don't want you "teaching lessons," and the child doesn't want you "teaching lessons."

Butt. Out. The child has two parents and at least one real grandparent. You need to be courteous and maybe even try to be--gasp!--a little fun.

Make some simple meals. Set them out. Don't monitor or nag. If he's still hungry, you can tell him he's free to make a PB&J.

If he complains, you can say, "Tim, that's not very nice. I won't force you to try anything, but I would appreciate if you kept your unkind thoughts to yourself." That's not "lesson-teaching," that's just standing up for yourelf in your own home. But only do that IF HE ACTUALLY SAYS SOMETHING.

You're spoiling for a fight. Stand down and let his real grandfather do any heavy lifting that needs to happen.

Anonymous wrote:"I'm very sad with some of the remarks here making me out to be a monster and I am not wanting to fight with the boy. Just to teach him some manners. Is that so wrong?"

Yep. That IS so wrong.

Because you are not his grandma, and you are not a trusted authority figure in his life. Literally no one wants you in the "Grandma" role; by your own admission, even you don't want that.

Your husband doesn't want you "teaching lessons," the child's parents don't want you "teaching lessons," and the child doesn't want you "teaching lessons."

Butt. Out. The child has two parents and at least one real grandparent. You need to be courteous and maybe even try to be--gasp!--a little fun.

Make some simple meals. Set them out. Don't monitor or nag. If he's still hungry, you can tell him he's free to make a PB&J.

If he complains, you can say, "Tim, that's not very nice. I won't force you to try anything, but I would appreciate if you kept your unkind thoughts to yourself." That's not "lesson-teaching," that's just standing up for yourelf in your own home. But only do that IF HE ACTUALLY SAYS SOMETHING.

You're spoiling for a fight. Stand down and let his real grandfather do any heavy lifting that needs to happen.

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Anonymous wrote:I think it says more about Americans that they would berate a non-American host for not wanting to give in to some spoiled brat. Anyone agree? The only voices of dissent seem to come from people who grew up elsewhere and understand that cooking food that a child doesn't like isn't child abuse.

Not true. If you read the whole thread, you would find my post, I am from Europe and completely disagree with OP. I think she is picking a fight that isn't hers, that serves no purpose and that she should take the kid shopping and get him food he wants. It is for 2 weeks. She is making a mountain out of a mole hill and who knows, this is clearly some weird power play. If she was an actual grandma or a mom even, she would learn that you don't lose sleep over nothing.

Ok, even if you disagree with her...so what? Why are you so worked up? She never said she was losing sleep or wants to punish the child. You are the one who is exaggerating.

I mean if you are not OP, which I think you are, how am I worked up compared to you? My opinion mirrors the opinion of most pps, you are among few who decided to give opinion of other pps rather than just her opinion of what OP should do, and to make it about the whole American nation being defensive and raising spoiled brats. And I am the one who is worked up?

I'm speaking the truth: https://www.npr.org/sections/thesalt/2018/06/09/618025893/want-your-child-to-try-eat-almost-everything-skip-the-kids-menu