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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]

Honestly, you sound whiney and needy.

Look, you admitted you've let your "bod" go a little.  You have NO interest in her whatsoever.  You're having sex, just not often.  But, it's not the quality of sex you want.  So, you want it your way or no way.

Look, you're not going to fix this unless you deal with your "I don't care" attitude.  You won't.  So work on that. And talk to her about what you want sexually.

Also, have you thought maybe YOU aren't giving her what she wants sexually? Not everyone wants long sex sessions on the regular.  Make it fast and fun. Make sure she is enjoying herself.  Honestly, if she were, maybe you wouldn't be having this problem.  So, look a bit at yourself and quit just blaming her.[/quote]

Look, of course he's needy. His needs aren't being met by his wife and he's not legally or ethically permitted to go elsewhere.

And you're not paying attention. He has talked to her. She shut him down. She doesn't want to listen. She also doesn't want to talk. If she has sexual preferences that would make sex better for her, she needs to say something instead of crying when the subject comes up and/or she needs to show him what she likes instead of just laying there. That's if she has any sexual interest. It's entirely possible, she just doesn't want to have sex -- no matter what OP does or doesn't do.

And you ignore that OP didn't start out disinterested. That disinterest is the product of what sounds like a long period of rejection from his wife. His interest isn't going to make the sex life better -- it was the crappy sex life that snuffed out his interest in the first place.[/quote]

Maybe her needs weren't being met, which lead to her lack of interest.  No one ever thinks this is an issue. I agree they need to discuss it more but he seems totally not willing to be open to that aspect of it.

And you ignore OP's post where he has NOT DISCUSSED the fact that he is utterly and completely disinterested in his wife. So, yeah, no. He has not been completely open with her.

He sounds high maintenance and whiny.  No one is attracted to that.[/quote]

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