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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a child with special needs and my child doesn't create problems for other students.  If anything I'm more concerned that my child would be a victim.

Because of my child's vulnerability, I definitely feel the need to know that the family of an aggressive child (SN or not) is on top of the case and reinforcing the message that bullying is wrong.

You personally (not just your child) would owe my child and my family an apology.  It's really not enough to expect the school to manage it - they aren't in session 24x7.  You have more time with your child than they do.  [/quote]

As a special needs parent, I'd expect you to also know that changing behavior isn't as simply as "reinforcing a message", and also that for the very young ones, it's not actually "bullying" because there's no intent behind it.  Go ahead and ask for the apology, but [b]realize that it has to do with YOU feeling better[/b], and not about putting the focus where it needs to be (the school supporting the classroom.)  [/quote]

And that's important, because I'm the one that has to be calm and comfort my child.  My child was abused by yours, and you want to walk away and expect the school to do your work for you.  It's not like that.  I have to comfort my child - which means you owe to society to help make up for the harm your child has caused.  If all I feel is anger and fear because of your child and the problem that you unleashed on us, then I can't effectively do both my job and yours - [b]which is trying to make up for your mistake.[/b]
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Ok, I'll grovel if you really think it makes that much of a difference.  But you're really not getting this.  These are behaviors caused by immaturity or special needs or a classroom that's not well managed.  It's not the parents' "mistake."  Not any more than your child's needs are your "mistake."  Yes, I agree that it's my responsibility to help my child change his behavior ... but that doesn't happen by apologizing to you.  Apologizing to you does actually zero to change my child's behavior.  You're looking for justice/vindication, not actually to do anything that helps my child change (or helps/forces the school to provide resources). I get that it's more compelling to make people grovel, though.  [/quote]

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