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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]For those who have Netflix (isn't that everyone?) there's a gripping film titled "[url=http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1242460/][u]We Need to Talk About Kevin[/u].[/url]"

As the parent of a child with SN, I was afraid to watch it.  My fear was that bullying behavior beyond a child's control would feature prominently.  I was wrong.  The fearless Tilda Swinton went where few people could to explore the distance and separation between a dangerous child and the parent's culpability.  At what point do you stop ignoring the warning signs?  What can you tolerate?  What is the cost?[/quote]

Wow, talk about an over-reaction and complete misunderstanding of the actual situation.  Parents of special needs kids (or other kids) who are acting out in preschool/K generally work very hard to address the issue.  The point here is that the other parents in the class have very little to gain by focusing on the need for an apology by the parents.  Because in most cases, the parents are working very hard to remedy the situation. The people you should focus on are the SCHOOL, because they are the ones that control resources that can help the situation.  The parent of the aggressive child simply cannot fix the situation without a lot of support from the school.  Likely, they have some degree of anxiety, ASD, language delay, or ADHD, that makes them more reactive to the school setting and less able to control their impulses.  They are not sociopaths or murderers!  They are kids with DISABILITIES who need support.  And for the very young kids in preschool (the new 3s) it's actually developmentally normal to still engage in some physical aggression (which research shows peaks between 2-3, then tapers off).  If the teacher does not have appropriate strategies to deal with this normal phase of child development, then it can turn into a situation where the behavior gets worse and not better.  (Note - by "normal" I don't mean "good."  I just mean that it's to be expected in some cases and not related to a disability, and teachers should have strategies to deal with it short of requiring a full-on IEP.)

If after all of this you're still focused on the parent's "culpability" then you're missing a huge piece of the picture of actually solving the problem.  Believe me, if parental guilt and culpability alone could solve these issues, there would be no issue.  You wouldn't believe the guilt and culpability I felt in this situation.  But I get it, easier and feels better to just be blaming and superior than actually think about the totality of the situation.  
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