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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just need to vent. My parents divorced right before retiring two years ago.

My mother is healthy, happy, has a nice boyfriend she is enjoying traveling with all over. My father sort of fell apart healthwise and has no friends or relatives (all dead beside his children).

I've tried to explain to my mother how difficult it has been for us. We both have jobs and small children and live a few hours away from our dad. But it's sort of like this awkward thing she refuses to acknowledge is happening. I am pissed because my father's health has gone sideways and my sister and I are stuck trying to care for him, which I know is awful, but there is a small part of me who thinks [b][i]couldn't you have just finished this gig, ma?[/i][b]

Here's an example. My sister cannot take off to help my father recuperate from surgery. So, I take a few days and help get him settled in a rehab center. In the midst of this, my husband has a work crisis that forces him to travel. We were able to get my mother in law to come down to help with our kids, but logistically, it was stressful. During this whole time, my mother knows what is going on and basically ignores every mention of my father and the logistical mess we were in. Like changes the subject to her next cruise with her boyfriend, which is nice and I'm happy for, but the complete absence of empathy or anything helpful is making me resentful.

I don't know what to think. Venting has helped though.[/quote]

Why are you mad at your mother? Why aren't you mad at your father?  It's his life and his responsibility. He is a grown man. He is not a child that the women in the family must care for.

Find other solutions. There are agencies that provide home health care. He could go to a nursing home/rehab facility.  [/quote]

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