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[quote=Anonymous][quote=ScienceMom][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  So now that his move out date is imminent, he's been saying things like "You know I haven't completely given up on us.  I still hope we can work things out and this separation will provide clarity."

What do I do with that?  I mean, my first choice would be to save my marriage, but I don't want to prolong this insanity.  He'd have to do so many things, and I'm not sure he has it in him.  [/quote]

full disclosure, i have not read everything but I have btdt.

Still have him move out. Don't close the door to reconciliation. He needs to live with the consequences of his actions.

No doubt the OW is a mess and he is starting to realize that, make him live it. He needs to decide regardless of you and the children that OW is not his soul mate. After he does ... and he will, he has 6 months of no contact with the OW and individual counseling to figure out why he uses affairs to "fix his internal issues". Let him try to recommit himself to being a person that does the right thing in the face of an imperfect world.

Then you can open discussion about whether you want to reconcile.

Either way your kids get a better man as a father. [/quote]

Couldn't have said it better![/quote]

I could say it better: Do NOT reconcile with a man like this. [/quote]

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