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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It can also be a form of narcissistic behavior, not allowing a kid any breathing room and basically taking over and becoming central to their activities -- eg, they  (your kid and the whole group) can't do it without you. Smother mothers and competitive mothers (moms who view their child as their competitor) love to do this. They live and walk among us. Not all, but they are definitely out there. I can spot the difference because I had a covert narc for a mother.[/quote]

THANK YOU!!!!!!! Finally, someone here who can see the truth. My area has a lot of this, not just at the school, but outside of school activities as well. What impacts do you think this has on the kid later in life?[/quote]

If you think the description above is “the truth” about any person who volunteers at their kid’s school, there is something seriously wrong with you.[/quote]\\

[b]If you can't see what's really happening - that's on you. Or are you one of these moms? [/b]I know it's true because I've done it before, and I know a few moms who still do this. I do know that there are a few moms who actually helped out just for the sake of helping, but their help stops after a few sign-ups. The moms with questionable intent don't stop. [/quote]

Uh huh. So any mom who volunteers more than once or twice is a smothering psycho narcissist, and anyone who questions that characterization is also one? [/quote]

Yes, you said it correctly. [/quote]

If you genuinely believe this you are either breathtakingly stupid, or have some form of mental illness. Possibly both.[/quote]

I'm thinking you are one of the moms who volunteer for the perks. It's fine. But know that many of us know the truth. You are trying to make up for your kids' shortcomings. Keep pretending. [/quote]

Still wondering what these perks are. What are you so pissy about exactly? What is your kid supposedly missing out on?[/quote]

The rest of the kids don't get things "perks" on their own merit; they have to compete with the kids who are favorites. The parents who constantly push themselves on others - just know the rest of us know what you're doing and see the shortcomings of you and your kids. [/quote]

NP.  You still haven’t told us exactly what those perks are.

Why don’t you go send your kid to a school with no parent volunteers like a title 1 school and get back to us with the differences in experiences.[/quote]

My kids have gone to both and they actually like their title 1 school more. There isn’t even a PTA.  But the teachers are great and they give quality lessons.  They really don’t miss the parent ran parties.  The school carnival at previous school was a big waste as well.  Dumb games and cheap plastic prizes. They had more fun just playing with friends on the school playground outside of the carnival than at the actual carnival [/quote]

Oh please.  Ask kids if they want or don’t want class parties.  Ask kids if they want festivals, pumpkin patch, holiday celebrations at school.  Of course they want them.  It’s like the no gift parents saying kids don’t want gifts when it’s the parents who don’t want them.

Volunteers make field trips happen, clubs and enrichment activities, sports, and also support staff and teachers.  This in turn gives them more time to do the curriculum planning and classroom instruction.

If your school doesn’t even have a PTA PP, that is pretty bad.  Lots of things not happening that could make the experience much better for your kid and the teachers and staff.   Ask me how I know.

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