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[quote=Anonymous]Funny, I am 46 and raising my 3 year old twins...a result of my OWN eggs, and a great deal of wonderful medical investment from Dominion Fertility.

Would I have WISHED to be younger, and not have needed fertility treatment to get pregnant?...YES.

But life didn't work that way for me...and, in retrospect, it is a good thing it didn't.  I can't imagine spending life trying to have a family with the men that I "almost" married, throughout my life.  I can't imagine having a different partner than my (found late in life) husband.  I can't imagine my life without my three wonderful step-children, that we invested 3 years into developing relationships with, BEFORE we got married.  I can't imagine having a different family working together to raise my two beautiful children.

Regrets...I was a late in life baby for my mom and dad...and with may 'late' parenthood... I regret that my mother died suddenly, before she could hold my babies in her arms.  I regret that my Dad doesn't get to participate in my children's lives as much as he would like.  I regret that I spent so much time in my 20s and 30s worrying about finding Mr Right and having kids...it worked the way it was meant to work!

I DON'T regret the husband I finally found...I don't regret the time we invested in family that existed, prior to starting our new family together...and I don't regret having my children.

Life takes one in so many different directions...many over which you have no control.

My best advice?  Get on the life train, ride the ride, and do your best to live it to the fullest, without any preconceived notions of how it SHOULD work out.

I now KNOW, that I was the PERFECT parent-- before I had children of my own.

Also, at 23, I was completely incapable of taking care of myself, well...let alone take care of children.  And I am talking NOT about, feeding, clothing, meeting the basic needs...but CARING for another human life, to the best of my emotional, physical, and mental abilities.  I am a much more grounded, better person (and likely a better parent) at 46 than I would have been at 23.

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