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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So much for it takes a community to raise a child.

Parents of kids with allergies cannot win.  If we remind you, we are neurotic, annoying helicopter parents.  If we don't, we have failed our kids.  Our kids have to always be vigilant, because adults cannot be relied upon.

I wonder how many of you non-allergy parents have made excuses for your 11 year olds forgetting things (blah blah blah, he's still a kid). It's an endless double standard.

I taught my kids a long time ago to check everything or skip when in doubt, because no adults, even well-known ones, can be relied on.  Sad, but true.[/quote]

Never have I ever called up and berated my friend for letting my kid forget a water bottle, hoody, or anything else. Keep imagining fake scenarios that make you into a victim. How do you get through the day, it's a mystery![/quote]

Well, that's because none of those things can KILL YOU.  You are a complete moron and, I'm sure, a shit friend.  Buh bye.[/quote]

Oh, hello. The onus is on you the one with the allergy, not everyone around you, to keep you safe. Sucks you have an allergy, but you already know this.[/quote]

When you are a child, the onus is, in fact, actually on the adults responsible for your care to keep you safe. It’s strange how hard that is for you to grasp. Again do you let toddlers play unsupervised by the pool? [/quote]

Even people whose toddlers drown say they don't let them play by the pool. But accidents happen. You don't seem to grasp that. You think if someone says "Got it!" nothing bad will happen.

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Accidents happen, but there’s a difference between the idea that accidents happen and the idea that adults aren’t responsible for keeping children in their care safe. It’s why some accidents result in prosecution. [/quote]

Threatening people is meaningless. An accident is an accident. Nobody here forced the kid to eat candy or lied about it. Having nut candy is not illegal.[/quote]

Who was threatened?

Having a car is not illegal— the accident happening where you leave your kid in it when it’s hot and they die can result in prosecution.

Having a pool is it illegal; pool owners are often sued for negligence when children (AND adults over the age to know better, which is higher than eleven) die in their pools.

And Disney is currently facing legal action for their response to a nut allergy of an adult physician who had the most opportunity possible to “know better”.

I realize you don’t like kids with allergies. That doesn’t mean you are allowed to put them in danger. [/quote]

Pools are an attractive nuisance, allergens aren’t.[/quote]

See what your homeowners insurance says when the kids health insurance sues you, which happens over much less negligence. Something tells me “bowl full of candy in a dark room with an eleven year old” is precisely going to meet the definition, especially since OP was well aware of the dangerous allergy. [/quote]

You are not a lawyer. Stop trying play one.[/quote]

You don’t need to be a lawyer to know that you are responsible for the safety of minor guests in your home. [/quote]

How far does that extend though? Many homes with no allergies are going to have traces of nuts. A door handle could have a little brother's sticky peanut butter hand print on it, a teen had a handful of nuts after practice and some of them touched the paper napkins on the counter. So what then? I don't know how people with allergies handle it. I'd be scared all the time if severely allergic. If less allergic, any cooking/food situation out of my control would still be terrifying. It means always hoping that someone down the line didn't mess up, like that poor girl on the plane with the sesame allergy to a sandwich that indicated NO sesame on it, or the doctor at Disney.[/quote]

I, for one, am scared all of the time. I watched my child almost die, even with an epi pen. It’s absolutely terrifying. That is why extending a little grace, understanding and kindness and god forbid trying to accommodate is so appreciated. But after reading all of these comments you see how people actually feel, 
I hope the allergy mom realizes her friendship with OP is over and sees her for who she is, not bc of the party but because of the presentation of this question.[/quote]

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