You should stop being friends with her.

I also have a kid with severe food allergies. There is no way to know why OP’s friend did not bring up her kid’s allergy (again). This is on OP’s friend.

However, OP’s attitude screams a lot of negative feelings towards this “friend” and her friend’s child who has a life threatening health condition. I hope one of you will have the guts to cut the ties. This is not how adult friends behave.

As for those of you who claim no big deal. Allergens are everywhere and exposure can happen even with the best precautions in this world. Both parents and kids who have these allergies are fully aware. It is all about minimizing the risks and differentiating between levels of potential danger in different environments. Having a bag of mixed candy is asking for trouble (broken/open pieces increasing the risk of ingredients directly on other candy and wrappers, child accidentally confusing two different types of candy, etc.). The kid knew to be careful, so someone taught him well. He was also disappointed that adults in his life didn’t think well enough about him in this situation (goes both to his own and his friend’s mom).

I would never say a word to another parent who didn’t care enough, I would just adjust my and my child’s safety expectations around this person and family.

But, I do see it as a lack of basic decency not to ask about allergies for any party regardless of age. I did this before having a child with allergies too.

So, OP: count your lucky stars (if you care about the child who was left in your care) and don’t look for sympathy for your “goof”. And, cut off the “friend”.

My son has a severe peanut allergy, and I remember that age so vividly because of something our allergist told us: "Remember, this is not everyone else's allergy, it's yours. The sooner you get in that mindset, the smoother it will be". She was so right. Your child needs to get in that habit NOW of never eating food unless he knows where every part of it came from. When in doubt, don't eat it. And no, it doesn't matter if he misses out on the treats at this age. He should get used to that feeling. He shouldn't assume everywhere he goes he will be fed, but instead prepare beforehand either bringing snacks or doing without. Again, this is the time he needs to learn this habit because it will only get harder as he ages up. Sorry he is going through this, but better to learn it now and get in good habits.

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Anonymous wrote:So much for it takes a community to raise a child.

Parents of kids with allergies cannot win. If we remind you, we are neurotic, annoying helicopter parents. If we don't, we have failed our kids. Our kids have to always be vigilant, because adults cannot be relied upon.

I wonder how many of you non-allergy parents have made excuses for your 11 year olds forgetting things (blah blah blah, he's still a kid). It's an endless double standard.

I taught my kids a long time ago to check everything or skip when in doubt, because no adults, even well-known ones, can be relied on. Sad, but true.

Never have I ever called up and berated my friend for letting my kid forget a water bottle, hoody, or anything else. Keep imagining fake scenarios that make you into a victim. How do you get through the day, it's a mystery!

Well, that's because none of those things can KILL YOU. You are a complete moron and, I'm sure, a shit friend. Buh bye.

Oh, hello. The onus is on you the one with the allergy, not everyone around you, to keep you safe. Sucks you have an allergy, but you already know this.

When you are a child, the onus is, in fact, actually on the adults responsible for your care to keep you safe. It’s strange how hard that is for you to grasp. Again do you let toddlers play unsupervised by the pool?

Even people whose toddlers drown say they don't let them play by the pool. But accidents happen. You don't seem to grasp that. You think if someone says "Got it!" nothing bad will happen.

Accidents happen, but there’s a difference between the idea that accidents happen and the idea that adults aren’t responsible for keeping children in their care safe. It’s why some accidents result in prosecution.

Threatening people is meaningless. An accident is an accident. Nobody here forced the kid to eat candy or lied about it. Having nut candy is not illegal.

Who was threatened?

Having a car is not illegal— the accident happening where you leave your kid in it when it’s hot and they die can result in prosecution.

Having a pool is it illegal; pool owners are often sued for negligence when children (AND adults over the age to know better, which is higher than eleven) die in their pools.

And Disney is currently facing legal action for their response to a nut allergy of an adult physician who had the most opportunity possible to “know better”.

I realize you don’t like kids with allergies. That doesn’t mean you are allowed to put them in danger.

Pools are an attractive nuisance, allergens aren’t.

See what your homeowners insurance says when the kids health insurance sues you, which happens over much less negligence. Something tells me “bowl full of candy in a dark room with an eleven year old” is precisely going to meet the definition, especially since OP was well aware of the dangerous allergy.

You are not a lawyer. Stop trying play one.

You don’t need to be a lawyer to know that you are responsible for the safety of minor guests in your home.

How far does that extend though? Many homes with no allergies are going to have traces of nuts. A door handle could have a little brother's sticky peanut butter hand print on it, a teen had a handful of nuts after practice and some of them touched the paper napkins on the counter. So what then? I don't know how people with allergies handle it. I'd be scared all the time if severely allergic. If less allergic, any cooking/food situation out of my control would still be terrifying. It means always hoping that someone down the line didn't mess up, like that poor girl on the plane with the sesame allergy to a sandwich that indicated NO sesame on it, or the doctor at Disney.

I, for one, am scared all of the time. I watched my child almost die, even with an epi pen. It’s absolutely terrifying. That is why extending a little grace, understanding and kindness and god forbid trying to accommodate is so appreciated. But after reading all of these comments you see how people actually feel,
I hope the allergy mom realizes her friendship with OP is over and sees her for who she is, not bc of the party but because of the presentation of this question.

There is a contingent on DCUM who just hate kids with allergies. Jeff has been deleting the worst of their posts. In real life people are not like this, and the ones who are are too ashamed to say so. Please don’t let this color your perceptions of your community which is probably much more sane than people posting on the internet that they want children to die…

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Anonymous wrote:So much for it takes a community to raise a child.

Parents of kids with allergies cannot win. If we remind you, we are neurotic, annoying helicopter parents. If we don't, we have failed our kids. Our kids have to always be vigilant, because adults cannot be relied upon.

I wonder how many of you non-allergy parents have made excuses for your 11 year olds forgetting things (blah blah blah, he's still a kid). It's an endless double standard.

I taught my kids a long time ago to check everything or skip when in doubt, because no adults, even well-known ones, can be relied on. Sad, but true.

Never have I ever called up and berated my friend for letting my kid forget a water bottle, hoody, or anything else. Keep imagining fake scenarios that make you into a victim. How do you get through the day, it's a mystery!

Well, that's because none of those things can KILL YOU. You are a complete moron and, I'm sure, a shit friend. Buh bye.

Oh, hello. The onus is on you the one with the allergy, not everyone around you, to keep you safe. Sucks you have an allergy, but you already know this.

When you are a child, the onus is, in fact, actually on the adults responsible for your care to keep you safe. It’s strange how hard that is for you to grasp. Again do you let toddlers play unsupervised by the pool?

Even people whose toddlers drown say they don't let them play by the pool. But accidents happen. You don't seem to grasp that. You think if someone says "Got it!" nothing bad will happen.

Accidents happen, but there’s a difference between the idea that accidents happen and the idea that adults aren’t responsible for keeping children in their care safe. It’s why some accidents result in prosecution.

Threatening people is meaningless. An accident is an accident. Nobody here forced the kid to eat candy or lied about it. Having nut candy is not illegal.

Who was threatened?

Having a car is not illegal— the accident happening where you leave your kid in it when it’s hot and they die can result in prosecution.

Having a pool is it illegal; pool owners are often sued for negligence when children (AND adults over the age to know better, which is higher than eleven) die in their pools.

And Disney is currently facing legal action for their response to a nut allergy of an adult physician who had the most opportunity possible to “know better”.

I realize you don’t like kids with allergies. That doesn’t mean you are allowed to put them in danger.

Pools are an attractive nuisance, allergens aren’t.

See what your homeowners insurance says when the kids health insurance sues you, which happens over much less negligence. Something tells me “bowl full of candy in a dark room with an eleven year old” is precisely going to meet the definition, especially since OP was well aware of the dangerous allergy.

You are not a lawyer. Stop trying play one.

You don’t need to be a lawyer to know that you are responsible for the safety of minor guests in your home.

How far does that extend though? Many homes with no allergies are going to have traces of nuts. A door handle could have a little brother's sticky peanut butter hand print on it, a teen had a handful of nuts after practice and some of them touched the paper napkins on the counter. So what then? I don't know how people with allergies handle it. I'd be scared all the time if severely allergic. If less allergic, any cooking/food situation out of my control would still be terrifying. It means always hoping that someone down the line didn't mess up, like that poor girl on the plane with the sesame allergy to a sandwich that indicated NO sesame on it, or the doctor at Disney.

I, for one, am scared all of the time. I watched my child almost die, even with an epi pen. It’s absolutely terrifying. That is why extending a little grace, understanding and kindness and god forbid trying to accommodate is so appreciated. But after reading all of these comments you see how people actually feel,
I hope the allergy mom realizes her friendship with OP is over and sees her for who she is, not bc of the party but because of the presentation of this question.

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Anonymous wrote:So much for it takes a community to raise a child.

Parents of kids with allergies cannot win. If we remind you, we are neurotic, annoying helicopter parents. If we don't, we have failed our kids. Our kids have to always be vigilant, because adults cannot be relied upon.

I wonder how many of you non-allergy parents have made excuses for your 11 year olds forgetting things (blah blah blah, he's still a kid). It's an endless double standard.

I taught my kids a long time ago to check everything or skip when in doubt, because no adults, even well-known ones, can be relied on. Sad, but true.

Never have I ever called up and berated my friend for letting my kid forget a water bottle, hoody, or anything else. Keep imagining fake scenarios that make you into a victim. How do you get through the day, it's a mystery!

Well, that's because none of those things can KILL YOU. You are a complete moron and, I'm sure, a shit friend. Buh bye.

Oh, hello. The onus is on you the one with the allergy, not everyone around you, to keep you safe. Sucks you have an allergy, but you already know this.

When you are a child, the onus is, in fact, actually on the adults responsible for your care to keep you safe. It’s strange how hard that is for you to grasp. Again do you let toddlers play unsupervised by the pool?

Even people whose toddlers drown say they don't let them play by the pool. But accidents happen. You don't seem to grasp that. You think if someone says "Got it!" nothing bad will happen.

Accidents happen, but there’s a difference between the idea that accidents happen and the idea that adults aren’t responsible for keeping children in their care safe. It’s why some accidents result in prosecution.

Threatening people is meaningless. An accident is an accident. Nobody here forced the kid to eat candy or lied about it. Having nut candy is not illegal.

Who was threatened?

Having a car is not illegal— the accident happening where you leave your kid in it when it’s hot and they die can result in prosecution.

Having a pool is it illegal; pool owners are often sued for negligence when children (AND adults over the age to know better, which is higher than eleven) die in their pools.

And Disney is currently facing legal action for their response to a nut allergy of an adult physician who had the most opportunity possible to “know better”.

I realize you don’t like kids with allergies. That doesn’t mean you are allowed to put them in danger.

Pools are an attractive nuisance, allergens aren’t.

See what your homeowners insurance says when the kids health insurance sues you, which happens over much less negligence. Something tells me “bowl full of candy in a dark room with an eleven year old” is precisely going to meet the definition, especially since OP was well aware of the dangerous allergy.

You are not a lawyer. Stop trying play one.

You don’t need to be a lawyer to know that you are responsible for the safety of minor guests in your home.

How far does that extend though? Many homes with no allergies are going to have traces of nuts. A door handle could have a little brother's sticky peanut butter hand print on it, a teen had a handful of nuts after practice and some of them touched the paper napkins on the counter. So what then? I don't know how people with allergies handle it. I'd be scared all the time if severely allergic. If less allergic, any cooking/food situation out of my control would still be terrifying. It means always hoping that someone down the line didn't mess up, like that poor girl on the plane with the sesame allergy to a sandwich that indicated NO sesame on it, or the doctor at Disney.

This isn’t an unknown allergy. This is an adult who has been told multiple times over the course of years that the child has an allergy.

And unknown situation or a misplaced package or a broken EpiPen are all outside the bounds of reasonable. What OP says she did was hand a bowl of candy with an allergy she knew full well about to the allergic kid.

All OP said was she knew, but hasn't seen them in awhile. I'm glad to know some allergy parents are so lackadaisical that their strategy to keep the kids safe is "we talked about it a long time ago, remember?" when things go sideways.

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Anonymous wrote:So much for it takes a community to raise a child.

Parents of kids with allergies cannot win. If we remind you, we are neurotic, annoying helicopter parents. If we don't, we have failed our kids. Our kids have to always be vigilant, because adults cannot be relied upon.

I wonder how many of you non-allergy parents have made excuses for your 11 year olds forgetting things (blah blah blah, he's still a kid). It's an endless double standard.

I taught my kids a long time ago to check everything or skip when in doubt, because no adults, even well-known ones, can be relied on. Sad, but true.

Never have I ever called up and berated my friend for letting my kid forget a water bottle, hoody, or anything else. Keep imagining fake scenarios that make you into a victim. How do you get through the day, it's a mystery!

Well, that's because none of those things can KILL YOU. You are a complete moron and, I'm sure, a shit friend. Buh bye.

Oh, hello. The onus is on you the one with the allergy, not everyone around you, to keep you safe. Sucks you have an allergy, but you already know this.

When you are a child, the onus is, in fact, actually on the adults responsible for your care to keep you safe. It’s strange how hard that is for you to grasp. Again do you let toddlers play unsupervised by the pool?

Even people whose toddlers drown say they don't let them play by the pool. But accidents happen. You don't seem to grasp that. You think if someone says "Got it!" nothing bad will happen.

Accidents happen, but there’s a difference between the idea that accidents happen and the idea that adults aren’t responsible for keeping children in their care safe. It’s why some accidents result in prosecution.

Threatening people is meaningless. An accident is an accident. Nobody here forced the kid to eat candy or lied about it. Having nut candy is not illegal.

Who was threatened?

Having a car is not illegal— the accident happening where you leave your kid in it when it’s hot and they die can result in prosecution.

Having a pool is it illegal; pool owners are often sued for negligence when children (AND adults over the age to know better, which is higher than eleven) die in their pools.

And Disney is currently facing legal action for their response to a nut allergy of an adult physician who had the most opportunity possible to “know better”.

I realize you don’t like kids with allergies. That doesn’t mean you are allowed to put them in danger.

Pools are an attractive nuisance, allergens aren’t.

See what your homeowners insurance says when the kids health insurance sues you, which happens over much less negligence. Something tells me “bowl full of candy in a dark room with an eleven year old” is precisely going to meet the definition, especially since OP was well aware of the dangerous allergy.

You are not a lawyer. Stop trying play one.

You don’t need to be a lawyer to know that you are responsible for the safety of minor guests in your home.

How far does that extend though? Many homes with no allergies are going to have traces of nuts. A door handle could have a little brother's sticky peanut butter hand print on it, a teen had a handful of nuts after practice and some of them touched the paper napkins on the counter. So what then? I don't know how people with allergies handle it. I'd be scared all the time if severely allergic. If less allergic, any cooking/food situation out of my control would still be terrifying. It means always hoping that someone down the line didn't mess up, like that poor girl on the plane with the sesame allergy to a sandwich that indicated NO sesame on it, or the doctor at Disney.

This isn’t an unknown allergy. This is an adult who has been told multiple times over the course of years that the child has an allergy.

And unknown situation or a misplaced package or a broken EpiPen are all outside the bounds of reasonable. What OP says she did was hand a bowl of candy with an allergy she knew full well about to the allergic kid.

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Anonymous wrote:So much for it takes a community to raise a child.

Parents of kids with allergies cannot win. If we remind you, we are neurotic, annoying helicopter parents. If we don't, we have failed our kids. Our kids have to always be vigilant, because adults cannot be relied upon.

I wonder how many of you non-allergy parents have made excuses for your 11 year olds forgetting things (blah blah blah, he's still a kid). It's an endless double standard.

I taught my kids a long time ago to check everything or skip when in doubt, because no adults, even well-known ones, can be relied on. Sad, but true.

Never have I ever called up and berated my friend for letting my kid forget a water bottle, hoody, or anything else. Keep imagining fake scenarios that make you into a victim. How do you get through the day, it's a mystery!

Well, that's because none of those things can KILL YOU. You are a complete moron and, I'm sure, a shit friend. Buh bye.

Oh, hello. The onus is on you the one with the allergy, not everyone around you, to keep you safe. Sucks you have an allergy, but you already know this.

When you are a child, the onus is, in fact, actually on the adults responsible for your care to keep you safe. It’s strange how hard that is for you to grasp. Again do you let toddlers play unsupervised by the pool?

Even people whose toddlers drown say they don't let them play by the pool. But accidents happen. You don't seem to grasp that. You think if someone says "Got it!" nothing bad will happen.

Accidents happen, but there’s a difference between the idea that accidents happen and the idea that adults aren’t responsible for keeping children in their care safe. It’s why some accidents result in prosecution.

Threatening people is meaningless. An accident is an accident. Nobody here forced the kid to eat candy or lied about it. Having nut candy is not illegal.

Who was threatened?

Having a car is not illegal— the accident happening where you leave your kid in it when it’s hot and they die can result in prosecution.

Having a pool is it illegal; pool owners are often sued for negligence when children (AND adults over the age to know better, which is higher than eleven) die in their pools.

And Disney is currently facing legal action for their response to a nut allergy of an adult physician who had the most opportunity possible to “know better”.

I realize you don’t like kids with allergies. That doesn’t mean you are allowed to put them in danger.

Pools are an attractive nuisance, allergens aren’t.

See what your homeowners insurance says when the kids health insurance sues you, which happens over much less negligence. Something tells me “bowl full of candy in a dark room with an eleven year old” is precisely going to meet the definition, especially since OP was well aware of the dangerous allergy.

You are not a lawyer. Stop trying play one.

You don’t need to be a lawyer to know that you are responsible for the safety of minor guests in your home.

I would have liked to but the parent didn't remind me, leave an epi-pen or ask what we were eating. Negligent parenting results in bad outcomes.

Except the parent has told you multiple times in the past according to your version of the story, if you’re the OP.

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Anonymous wrote:So much for it takes a community to raise a child.

Parents of kids with allergies cannot win. If we remind you, we are neurotic, annoying helicopter parents. If we don't, we have failed our kids. Our kids have to always be vigilant, because adults cannot be relied upon.

I wonder how many of you non-allergy parents have made excuses for your 11 year olds forgetting things (blah blah blah, he's still a kid). It's an endless double standard.

I taught my kids a long time ago to check everything or skip when in doubt, because no adults, even well-known ones, can be relied on. Sad, but true.

Never have I ever called up and berated my friend for letting my kid forget a water bottle, hoody, or anything else. Keep imagining fake scenarios that make you into a victim. How do you get through the day, it's a mystery!

Well, that's because none of those things can KILL YOU. You are a complete moron and, I'm sure, a shit friend. Buh bye.

Oh, hello. The onus is on you the one with the allergy, not everyone around you, to keep you safe. Sucks you have an allergy, but you already know this.

When you are a child, the onus is, in fact, actually on the adults responsible for your care to keep you safe. It’s strange how hard that is for you to grasp. Again do you let toddlers play unsupervised by the pool?

Even people whose toddlers drown say they don't let them play by the pool. But accidents happen. You don't seem to grasp that. You think if someone says "Got it!" nothing bad will happen.

Accidents happen, but there’s a difference between the idea that accidents happen and the idea that adults aren’t responsible for keeping children in their care safe. It’s why some accidents result in prosecution.

Threatening people is meaningless. An accident is an accident. Nobody here forced the kid to eat candy or lied about it. Having nut candy is not illegal.

Who was threatened?

Having a car is not illegal— the accident happening where you leave your kid in it when it’s hot and they die can result in prosecution.

Having a pool is it illegal; pool owners are often sued for negligence when children (AND adults over the age to know better, which is higher than eleven) die in their pools.

And Disney is currently facing legal action for their response to a nut allergy of an adult physician who had the most opportunity possible to “know better”.

I realize you don’t like kids with allergies. That doesn’t mean you are allowed to put them in danger.

Pools are an attractive nuisance, allergens aren’t.

See what your homeowners insurance says when the kids health insurance sues you, which happens over much less negligence. Something tells me “bowl full of candy in a dark room with an eleven year old” is precisely going to meet the definition, especially since OP was well aware of the dangerous allergy.

You are not a lawyer. Stop trying play one.

You don’t need to be a lawyer to know that you are responsible for the safety of minor guests in your home.

How far does that extend though? Many homes with no allergies are going to have traces of nuts. A door handle could have a little brother's sticky peanut butter hand print on it, a teen had a handful of nuts after practice and some of them touched the paper napkins on the counter. So what then? I don't know how people with allergies handle it. I'd be scared all the time if severely allergic. If less allergic, any cooking/food situation out of my control would still be terrifying. It means always hoping that someone down the line didn't mess up, like that poor girl on the plane with the sesame allergy to a sandwich that indicated NO sesame on it, or the doctor at Disney.

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Anonymous wrote:So much for it takes a community to raise a child.

Parents of kids with allergies cannot win. If we remind you, we are neurotic, annoying helicopter parents. If we don't, we have failed our kids. Our kids have to always be vigilant, because adults cannot be relied upon.

I wonder how many of you non-allergy parents have made excuses for your 11 year olds forgetting things (blah blah blah, he's still a kid). It's an endless double standard.

I taught my kids a long time ago to check everything or skip when in doubt, because no adults, even well-known ones, can be relied on. Sad, but true.

Never have I ever called up and berated my friend for letting my kid forget a water bottle, hoody, or anything else. Keep imagining fake scenarios that make you into a victim. How do you get through the day, it's a mystery!

Well, that's because none of those things can KILL YOU. You are a complete moron and, I'm sure, a shit friend. Buh bye.

Oh, hello. The onus is on you the one with the allergy, not everyone around you, to keep you safe. Sucks you have an allergy, but you already know this.

When you are a child, the onus is, in fact, actually on the adults responsible for your care to keep you safe. It’s strange how hard that is for you to grasp. Again do you let toddlers play unsupervised by the pool?

Even people whose toddlers drown say they don't let them play by the pool. But accidents happen. You don't seem to grasp that. You think if someone says "Got it!" nothing bad will happen.

Accidents happen, but there’s a difference between the idea that accidents happen and the idea that adults aren’t responsible for keeping children in their care safe. It’s why some accidents result in prosecution.

Threatening people is meaningless. An accident is an accident. Nobody here forced the kid to eat candy or lied about it. Having nut candy is not illegal.

Who was threatened?

Having a car is not illegal— the accident happening where you leave your kid in it when it’s hot and they die can result in prosecution.

Having a pool is it illegal; pool owners are often sued for negligence when children (AND adults over the age to know better, which is higher than eleven) die in their pools.

And Disney is currently facing legal action for their response to a nut allergy of an adult physician who had the most opportunity possible to “know better”.

I realize you don’t like kids with allergies. That doesn’t mean you are allowed to put them in danger.

Pools are an attractive nuisance, allergens aren’t.

See what your homeowners insurance says when the kids health insurance sues you, which happens over much less negligence. Something tells me “bowl full of candy in a dark room with an eleven year old” is precisely going to meet the definition, especially since OP was well aware of the dangerous allergy.

You are not a lawyer. Stop trying play one.

You don’t need to be a lawyer to know that you are responsible for the safety of minor guests in your home.

I would have liked to but the parent didn't remind me, leave an epi-pen or ask what we were eating. Negligent parenting results in bad outcomes.

So they deserve their kid to be a risk because they are negligent but also because they are helicopter parents or whatever you called them?

I didn’t call them helicopters. And why would you care anyway?

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Anonymous wrote:So much for it takes a community to raise a child.

Parents of kids with allergies cannot win. If we remind you, we are neurotic, annoying helicopter parents. If we don't, we have failed our kids. Our kids have to always be vigilant, because adults cannot be relied upon.

I wonder how many of you non-allergy parents have made excuses for your 11 year olds forgetting things (blah blah blah, he's still a kid). It's an endless double standard.

I taught my kids a long time ago to check everything or skip when in doubt, because no adults, even well-known ones, can be relied on. Sad, but true.

Never have I ever called up and berated my friend for letting my kid forget a water bottle, hoody, or anything else. Keep imagining fake scenarios that make you into a victim. How do you get through the day, it's a mystery!

Well, that's because none of those things can KILL YOU. You are a complete moron and, I'm sure, a shit friend. Buh bye.

Oh, hello. The onus is on you the one with the allergy, not everyone around you, to keep you safe. Sucks you have an allergy, but you already know this.

When you are a child, the onus is, in fact, actually on the adults responsible for your care to keep you safe. It’s strange how hard that is for you to grasp. Again do you let toddlers play unsupervised by the pool?

Even people whose toddlers drown say they don't let them play by the pool. But accidents happen. You don't seem to grasp that. You think if someone says "Got it!" nothing bad will happen.

Accidents happen, but there’s a difference between the idea that accidents happen and the idea that adults aren’t responsible for keeping children in their care safe. It’s why some accidents result in prosecution.

Threatening people is meaningless. An accident is an accident. Nobody here forced the kid to eat candy or lied about it. Having nut candy is not illegal.

Who was threatened?

Having a car is not illegal— the accident happening where you leave your kid in it when it’s hot and they die can result in prosecution.

Having a pool is it illegal; pool owners are often sued for negligence when children (AND adults over the age to know better, which is higher than eleven) die in their pools.

And Disney is currently facing legal action for their response to a nut allergy of an adult physician who had the most opportunity possible to “know better”.

I realize you don’t like kids with allergies. That doesn’t mean you are allowed to put them in danger.

Pools are an attractive nuisance, allergens aren’t.

See what your homeowners insurance says when the kids health insurance sues you, which happens over much less negligence. Something tells me “bowl full of candy in a dark room with an eleven year old” is precisely going to meet the definition, especially since OP was well aware of the dangerous allergy.

You are not a lawyer. Stop trying play one.

You don’t need to be a lawyer to know that you are responsible for the safety of minor guests in your home.

I would have liked to but the parent didn't remind me, leave an epi-pen or ask what we were eating. Negligent parenting results in bad outcomes.

So they deserve their kid to be a risk because they are negligent but also because they are helicopter parents or whatever you called them?

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Anonymous wrote:So much for it takes a community to raise a child.

Parents of kids with allergies cannot win. If we remind you, we are neurotic, annoying helicopter parents. If we don't, we have failed our kids. Our kids have to always be vigilant, because adults cannot be relied upon.

I wonder how many of you non-allergy parents have made excuses for your 11 year olds forgetting things (blah blah blah, he's still a kid). It's an endless double standard.

I taught my kids a long time ago to check everything or skip when in doubt, because no adults, even well-known ones, can be relied on. Sad, but true.

Never have I ever called up and berated my friend for letting my kid forget a water bottle, hoody, or anything else. Keep imagining fake scenarios that make you into a victim. How do you get through the day, it's a mystery!

Well, that's because none of those things can KILL YOU. You are a complete moron and, I'm sure, a shit friend. Buh bye.

Oh, hello. The onus is on you the one with the allergy, not everyone around you, to keep you safe. Sucks you have an allergy, but you already know this.

When you are a child, the onus is, in fact, actually on the adults responsible for your care to keep you safe. It’s strange how hard that is for you to grasp. Again do you let toddlers play unsupervised by the pool?

Even people whose toddlers drown say they don't let them play by the pool. But accidents happen. You don't seem to grasp that. You think if someone says "Got it!" nothing bad will happen.

Accidents happen, but there’s a difference between the idea that accidents happen and the idea that adults aren’t responsible for keeping children in their care safe. It’s why some accidents result in prosecution.

Threatening people is meaningless. An accident is an accident. Nobody here forced the kid to eat candy or lied about it. Having nut candy is not illegal.

Who was threatened?

Having a car is not illegal— the accident happening where you leave your kid in it when it’s hot and they die can result in prosecution.

Having a pool is it illegal; pool owners are often sued for negligence when children (AND adults over the age to know better, which is higher than eleven) die in their pools.

And Disney is currently facing legal action for their response to a nut allergy of an adult physician who had the most opportunity possible to “know better”.

I realize you don’t like kids with allergies. That doesn’t mean you are allowed to put them in danger.

Pools are an attractive nuisance, allergens aren’t.

See what your homeowners insurance says when the kids health insurance sues you, which happens over much less negligence. Something tells me “bowl full of candy in a dark room with an eleven year old” is precisely going to meet the definition, especially since OP was well aware of the dangerous allergy.

You are not a lawyer. Stop trying play one.

You don’t need to be a lawyer to know that you are responsible for the safety of minor guests in your home.

I would have liked to but the parent didn't remind me, leave an epi-pen or ask what we were eating. Negligent parenting results in bad outcomes.