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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Posted too early... to make myself feel better i read DCUM trashing SAHMs and how women must have economic independence and SAHMs will suffer when the husbands cheats. WHen in real life the women I know who are SAHMs are doing quite jolly and enjoy a wonderful relationship with their kids and have time for some self-care.

(Except for one, but she was the one who cheated and fully deserves the mess her life became). [/quote]

Key is being comfortable in your marriage and communication.  We chose for me to be SAHM.  I was making $100K+ 25 years ago.  I had a great career and we could have easily afforded a great nanny.  But we didn't think it was fair to our kids to have two parents in high powered careers and have us both traveling extensively.  And I wanted to be with the kids---we waited until 30s to have them, so I had worked and made my choice.  I knew my spouse would go further in his career (I had no desire to go into management, I just loved my job).  So I stayed at home.  Spouse advanced quickly, and it is easier to do if you have no worries about picking kids up, having to take day off/work from home (25 years ago) because it's "your day to be with the sick kid" or having to say "nope I cannot travel that week, because my wife has to travel for work so I'm on kid duty after hours."  
Everyone is happier because it's "calmer at home".  The kids don't have to be in bed at X time because they have to get up at 6am to get to daycare by 7am.  Evenings and mornings were much more enjoyable for all.

But I would not have done that if I were not considered an equal by my spouse.  Then again, I wouldn't have had kids with a partner who didn't value that.

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