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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge! ;-)
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Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!!  My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson?  No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny. [/quote]

Either we have 1) trolling, 2) an OP who is exaggerating to the extreme for attention/sympathy, or 3) a FIL with extreme mental illness.[/quote]

Or option 4, a troll who gets off just posting mean comments all day for attention. [/quote]

I think we have option 5, a family situation that is supremely annoying and the OP is in the right to be annoyed.

Why do people (is it the same person all the time?) always say a poster is a troll? It is like this person is a troll who gets their jollies calling other people trolls.  [/quote]

Op here. No clue why I keep being called a troll. Other people have shared that they’re going through a similar situation with their in-laws so this could be a generational problem or an early sign of senility. I agree with a prior poster that this is likely a binge eating disorder that I’m not going to be able to cure. I think the best solution going forward is to just assertively say that we don’t want to order unnecessary food as it is a bad example for our children, period end of sentence. If he wants to order extra hes welcome to do so later. Honestly that’s one of the worst parts of this, sitting there while he piggishly gobbles down plate number 2 and talks about what desserts he’ll be ordering.

I really appreciate all the kind comments and helpful advice. FIL was scheduled to fly here this July, but after the Easter Basket Fiasco he has been quiet. I’ll post an update if he comes back. [/quote]

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