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Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!

Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.

Either we have 1) trolling, 2) an OP who is exaggerating to the extreme for attention/sympathy, or 3) a FIL with extreme mental illness.

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Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!

Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.

Either we have 1) trolling, 2) an OP who is exaggerating to the extreme for attention/sympathy, or 3) a FIL with extreme mental illness.

Or option 4, a troll who gets off just posting mean comments all day for attention.

I think we have option 5, a family situation that is supremely annoying and the OP is in the right to be annoyed.

Why do people (is it the same person all the time?) always say a poster is a troll? It is like this person is a troll who gets their jollies calling other people trolls.

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Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!

Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.

Either we have 1) trolling, 2) an OP who is exaggerating to the extreme for attention/sympathy, or 3) a FIL with extreme mental illness.

Or option 4, a troll who gets off just posting mean comments all day for attention.

I think we have option 5, a family situation that is supremely annoying and the OP is in the right to be annoyed.

Why do people (is it the same person all the time?) always say a poster is a troll? It is like this person is a troll who gets their jollies calling other people trolls.

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Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!

Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.

Either we have 1) trolling, 2) an OP who is exaggerating to the extreme for attention/sympathy, or 3) a FIL with extreme mental illness.

Or option 4, a troll who gets off just posting mean comments all day for attention.

I think we have option 5, a family situation that is supremely annoying and the OP is in the right to be annoyed.

Why do people (is it the same person all the time?) always say a poster is a troll? It is like this person is a troll who gets their jollies calling other people trolls.

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Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!

Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.

Either we have 1) trolling, 2) an OP who is exaggerating to the extreme for attention/sympathy, or 3) a FIL with extreme mental illness.

Or option 4, a troll who gets off just posting mean comments all day for attention.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!

Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.

Either we have 1) trolling, 2) an OP who is exaggerating to the extreme for attention/sympathy, or 3) a FIL with extreme mental illness.

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Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!

Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.

Anonymous wrote:Am I a jerk for getting annoyed that FIL orders two entrees, an appetizer, and a dessert every time we pay the restaurant bill?

My husband and I are both feds and make a nice living but live pretty frugally since we have two kids with lots of expenses. Every time we visit our father in law who lives across the country or when he visits here, FIL insists we pay for everything. I find this annoying because FIL is wealthy (my husband has seen his financial records) and he brags about things like never flying economy when he visits Europe (which happens at least once a year).

FIL rarely pays for anything, ever except maybe the occasional fast food lunch where won’t let the kids order happy meals because they’re “too expensive”. I don’t know why this bugs me so much but it does. I have never seen anyone order two entrees at once. Is this normal? No he’s not fat, just chubby.

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Anonymous wrote:Am I a jerk for getting annoyed that FIL orders two entrees, an appetizer, and a dessert every time we pay the restaurant bill?

My husband and I are both feds and make a nice living but live pretty frugally since we have two kids with lots of expenses. Every time we visit our father in law who lives across the country or when he visits here, FIL insists we pay for everything. I find this annoying because FIL is wealthy (my husband has seen his financial records) and he brags about things like never flying economy when he visits Europe (which happens at least once a year).

FIL rarely pays for anything, ever except maybe the occasional fast food lunch where won’t let the kids order happy meals because they’re “too expensive”. I don’t know why this bugs me so much but it does. I have never seen anyone order two entrees at once. Is this normal? No he’s not fat, just chubby.

My BIL would do the same thing if we were footing the bill. One to two appetizers and two entrees of the most expensive things on the menu, then he'd take it to go. It's rude, so either stop paying for him or let it go.

My MIL, who never goes out to dinner with FIL, does the same thing when houseguesting with us.
Most expensive thing in the menu (they both aim for this), drinks, appetizers, desserts, pies and muffins to go, etc. She turns to my kids and asks if they are going to get more desserts or muffins to go too. My kids are athletes and look at her like she’s nuts. And a cheapwad.

It’s like a sport to see how much they can make someone else pay for them.

She’s even declared that as she never tells us how long or how many days or weeks they’re coming to visit. She said: “We have to make it worth our while.”

Best I can come up with is her goal is to eat 5x the value of their flight costs on us.

Op here. I wonder if it’s senility. Or like early senile behavior.

In my case they’ve always been like that.

It’s like a sport for them: see if others will pay for them. Theyre cheap and frugal. And have some other mental disorders (ie aspergers).

They don’t tip either when eating out; it’s embarrassing. They play dumb. We’ve had staff follow us out and ask what was wrong with our 8 person meal they “covered” but didn’t tip on. Gross.

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Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!

Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.

So you just didn't tell him you weren't going to order all of his extra food? He's rude tearing into the entrees like a starving hyena but I am guessing he though all of what was ordered was his.

Also next time when he says "nothing tastes as good as leftovers" I'd be so tempted to say "I wouldn't know, last time you ate all of my food"

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Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!

Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Am I a jerk for getting annoyed that FIL orders two entrees, an appetizer, and a dessert every time we pay the restaurant bill?

My husband and I are both feds and make a nice living but live pretty frugally since we have two kids with lots of expenses. Every time we visit our father in law who lives across the country or when he visits here, FIL insists we pay for everything. I find this annoying because FIL is wealthy (my husband has seen his financial records) and he brags about things like never flying economy when he visits Europe (which happens at least once a year).

FIL rarely pays for anything, ever except maybe the occasional fast food lunch where won’t let the kids order happy meals because they’re “too expensive”. I don’t know why this bugs me so much but it does. I have never seen anyone order two entrees at once. Is this normal? No he’s not fat, just chubby.

My BIL would do the same thing if we were footing the bill. One to two appetizers and two entrees of the most expensive things on the menu, then he'd take it to go. It's rude, so either stop paying for him or let it go.

My MIL, who never goes out to dinner with FIL, does the same thing when houseguesting with us.
Most expensive thing in the menu (they both aim for this), drinks, appetizers, desserts, pies and muffins to go, etc. She turns to my kids and asks if they are going to get more desserts or muffins to go too. My kids are athletes and look at her like she’s nuts. And a cheapwad.

It’s like a sport to see how much they can make someone else pay for them.

She’s even declared that as she never tells us how long or how many days or weeks they’re coming to visit. She said: “We have to make it worth our while.”

Best I can come up with is her goal is to eat 5x the value of their flight costs on us.

Op here. I wonder if it’s senility. Or like early senile behavior.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That would irritate me in so many small ways.

1. He shouldn't be eating that much, honestly. Restaurant dishes are usually higher in calories than their home-made counterparts.

2. Try something radical. When he visits, don't go out to eat. Cook at home, or order less-expensive take-out. Tell him you're on a budget, even if it's not true. Watch him struggle with that, then when he's not around, splurge!

Op here with an update. FIL came for Easter. To say he was infuriating was a huge understatement. Wallet stayed firmly in his back pocket but he was full of suggestions about where he wanted to go (meaning where he wanted us to treat him).

I took the advice of many like this PP and got takeout the Saturday before Easter. First of all, he insisted on ordering multiple entrees because “nothing tastes better than leftovers”. I ignored him and ordered one entree per adult, one of the appetizers he ordered, and didn’t order dessert at all. Fil did not offer to pay. When the food arrived, he ripped the bags from my husbands hands immediately started serving himself. He didn’t even wait for everyone to get to the table before he was gobbling. By the time we managed to sit down he had consumed two entrees completely and was working on the one he ordered. There was nothing really left for my husband and I to eat, and FIL said well i ordered two entrees and a bunch of apps but it looks like the restaurant didn’t put them in the bag!! My husband through clenched teeth told him to please wait for everyone to sit down before eating and for the love of God each person is entitled to eat the entree they ordered. He looked utterly wounded and tearful, but did not offer to pay or apologize. He spent the rest of Saturday sulking.

Do I think he learned his lesson? No because my kids caught him eating out of their Easter baskets. He then asked me where the leftover candy went, and I had to tell him that the Easter bunny brought the baskets not me. My kids definitely now know there is no such thing as the easter bunny.

Team FIL !

Yeah! The selfish pig really showed them good! Eating all the Easter meal takeout himself before anyone even sat down.

What a royal @$$. I’d never host him again in my home or at a restaurant.

That or I’d set aside $500 a year and call it the Pig Fund. And that’s be the only gift he ever got. Any meal and his “multiple orders” would get deducted from the Pig Fund (and tax and tip) and then it’d be over. No more money pops.

PIG FUND! Hahahahaha I love you so much.

op