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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP clearly has a blind spot toward her own behaviors. All 3 kids? She thinks they are spoiled but takes no blame? Describes herself in positive ways and everyone else in negative ways. She’s the problem.

Boomer women didn’t work and did far, far less kid centric things than millennials do today. Their identities were tied to their husband, his work, friends and having kids. As those things have slipped away with time , they seem very empty and are forcing themselves are their adult children.

I’m GenX and see it with our boomer parents and their siblings. Not a one did anything more than a card or call on Mother’s Day for their mothers but boy do they still demand a full on celebration of them on Mother’s Day. As GenX we just ignore it or appease them but I see my millennial younger cousins being much less tolerant of the behavior. [/quote]

You could not be more wrong here. You have your generations mixed up. Boomer women were the first to be in the work force fully,  and they were expected to be in the work force- not a choice thing. We broke glass ceilings in the work force, established work policies for women in while in the work force, expected to take on male dominated STEM field roles with less pay, expected to manage  daycare effortlessly,  fought off misogynistic practices, sexual abuse and workplace harassment,  and as they said over and over in ads and songs: " She brings home the bacon and fries it up in a pan."

Our identities were  not tied to our spouse and  women were frowned upon if they did. Many of us married later, had kids later,  and we were the first generation to normalize  divorce. We were the first to keep our names. We had our own accts.

I am 66. I have friends in the age group going towards 75. Some a little older.  No one was a stay at home wife and mother. All  socioeconomic levels, all income levels.

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Some Boomer women were trailblazers. Most were not. I’m guessing the OP was not.[/quote]

You have it backwards. Most were trailblazers, small minority were not. Women were entirely in the workplace, [b] very few exceptions, [/b]unless quite wealthy (?)   or cultural.  Read up folks.  [/quote]

Not true.  In 1960, 50% of households with kids had 2 married Parents with a stay at home mom. [/quote]

You are actually illustrating the problem of generational confusion.  You don't understand who the Boomers are. In 1960, I was a child. I was a toddler. My parents weren't Boomers.  Yes,  those Moms weren't generally in the professional work force. They weren't Boomers.

[b]BUT- we were. We, the Boomer women absolutely were in the work force..and right away. [/b]
1960, to be a married and have kids and still be the oldest boomer, they would have had to be [u]age 14. [/u]

Guys,  please stop assigning generational abuse to Boomers, you really don't understand who the Boomer women are. You are confusing the silent 
generation with the Boomers. And, most of your parents are the youngest Boomers- the Jonesers . Look at what the Boomer women did as a path for you,  sexual  freedom, the pill, sexual health, women in politics,  work/ life balance, benefits and salary for women, racial and gender equity, fair hiring , marriage equity,  child care, glass ceiling, etc. We started to leave religious ideals, broke cultural boundaries, maarried interracially. We divorced. AND- We brought technology in the home and workplace, not Gen X, not millennials,  BTW.

Now, you might look at Mom differently  knowing she had to fight for all that knowing that NOW it is all in peril by a growing  right wing theocracy again. We are going backwards. Better ger back to the drawing board, ladies. And while you do that-
No need to call your parents morons.  
No need to give your parents a house  repair list.
Yes, you can take advice, it's not criticism.

**If your parents were mentally ill, under resourced, undereducated,  you are having different issues- issues that are still going on today with children today, in all families, and for the same  reasons,  but it's not generational.  Sorry.[/quote]

You don't see the irony in your argument that non-Boomers view you all negatively simply because we must be confused. Certainly we don't appreciate your generation enough or else we'd fall over ourselves agreeing with the lot of you ... about how great you are.  :roll: [/quote]

No, again. Wrong attributes to a wrong generation, which was the point.

And as far as Boomers go, uh, yeah, you probably should thank them. They certainly aren't morons.  You might also learn a few things. [/quote]

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