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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It sucks, but you will need to get over it. It’s easier to get over it if you adopt the perspective that it isn’t “your” money; it’s hers, and she can do what she wants with it.

I have a similar experience. My mother (73) has always favored one of my brothers, to an unhealthy extreme. She has indicated that she wants to make him executor of her estate (approx $10 mil) and let him decide how to wants to distribute it among her four children. I told her that didn’t sound enforceable and she told me to buzz off. So I’m prepared to get zero. [/quote]

73 is young and you haven't had to deal with much eldercare stress yet. Talk to me after you have spent over a decade dealing with many emergencies, decline into dementia, rage, paranoia, and more and the sibling who is getting the most money is conveniently busy, but swings into town now and then, gets special treatment and before mom is declared incompetent manages to squeeze out more handouts. Talk to me when you have your own family emergencies and the siblings getting more aren't available. I don't mean give us your feedback after a year of this. You need to have your life upended with highly difficult parents, as you figure out in therapy how to set boundaries and you try to do the right thing even though the one who is never there for them is busy traveling for leisure and will getting a windfall of money down the line.[/quote]

So you would be willing to put up with abuse and poor treatment if the price tag was right?  Your help for loved ones is conditioned on a payout?

I get that you're going through a tough time, PP, but there's no way to look at this where your attitude is anything but crappy.  [/quote]

Yes, so true.[/quote]

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