Reply to Take them or leave them - brutally honest description of your spouse

Forum Index » Relationship Discussion (non-explicit)

Reply to "Take them or leave them - brutally honest description of your spouse"

Subject:

Emoticons





More smilies

Text Color: Font: Close Marks

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am noticing a trend that spouses are a balanced blend of very good and very bad traits. I suppose when the balance tips to the bad, the relationship goes in the sh*tter pretty quick.[/quote]
Agreed. So many posts saying “gorgeous, tall, great in bed, best dad, loving, caring……but screams in my face, bad temper, occasionally violent (but not too often), etc” it’s like WTF???[/quote]

It's called people are human[/quote]

Lots of humans would never, ever scream in somebody else’s face. If you’re going to brush that off by saying it’s just being human, you can also say that being human is also being unwaveringly respectful or consistently emotionally validating. [/quote]

No one is a saint is all. Pick what you can live with. You can't dismiss each person on earth because they have one bad trait that is hard for you to live with. Maybe you need more empathy for that trait or you were attracted to that person because you are the opposite of that trait and you need to regulate yourself.

Did the person just crash the car and kill their child? Or just found out the wife ate all the chocolate ice cream. Context kind of matters.[/quote]

Expect somebody to live up to basic standards of human decency isn’t expecting sainthood.

Lots of the cons of somebody mentioned here are what I wound expect when you are talking about bad traits that are hard to live with, like not cleaning a lot or dressing terribly. Screaming in somebody’s face? That’s unacceptable, always, and if it happens regularly it means you are mistreating somebody, not that you have a trait that’s hard to deal with.

[/quote]

Options

	Disable HTML in this message
	Disable BB Code in this message
	Disable smilies in this message

Review message

Search Recent Topics Hottest Topics