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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I would have gone off on those boys. F that! No way!

She did the right thing. I get why your H did nothing.

But as a 50 year old woman who has been sexually harassed since I was 12 I have learned to not let it go.

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Without knowing who did it?   There were several boys and according to OP's daughter there was only one pinch--which means you would be "gong off" on several innocent parties. If you "went off" on my kid who hadn't done anything wrong, I'd alert hotel security and hopefully they'd have you thrown out.   [b]You can't just go around screaming at random innocent strangers[/b].
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Of course you can...however, it's highly unlikely that your kids will ever experience a false accusation.

Throughout my careet, I've had to deal with apologist, enabling mothers like you, who become defensive of their baby's without ever knowing the facts, giving every excuse in the book as to why your child is innocent (usually reverting back to the good old fashioned victim-blaming).

However it is a truly rare day when their child gets falsely accused; because mothers like you usually raise children that there are valid grounds for accusations against.

Oh, and the majority of hotel chains are required to have cameras in the pool area, for insurance purposes -- so, you should be less worried about your sweet, sensitive & misunderstood little Larlo being falsely accused, and more worried about he and/or his friends predatory nature.

I've been an investigator for the past 16 years, and I've sadly become keenly aware of what a liar 
 or a predators instinctual body language looks like.

It seems as if these boys have barely reached puberty themselves -- so, right away we know that they're not practiced, seasoned liars or predators (they're usually not, but there's always a chance that they are).

A good example that comes to mind is Josh Duggar -- a large reason that he was able to proliferate so out of control and molest for as long as he did (with as many girls as he victimized) was because he has horrible, selfish, enabling, apologist parents, who constantly run defense & covering up for them.

So, chances are good that these boys aren't sitting at home and googling things like "how to beat a lie detector test", "how to avoid the appearance of guilt" or "how to avoid detection" during their free time between soccer practice and dinner, which makes determining which boy did it even easier (if there isn't video proof).

That being said, any parent on here should be able to detect which boy assaulted her with just a few simple questions.... varied facial expressions & affiliated reactions will indicate when someone is lying.

Some of these reactions are caused by nervousness, some are involuntary reactions caused by guilt & shame, some are chemical reactions that can't be hid and others are a blatant physical reaction.

Since these boys are just kids themselves, you won't need the entire checklist, just a few basics should do.

If there is no identifying footage from the hotel for you to review, you start by confronting the group as a whole, stating the facts as your daughter gave them (no yelling or freaking out ifc that can be helped, as a stern, authoritative demeanor is much effective).

There won't be any of this silly & insulting "if she even remembers"  like the PP said in her previous post -- as these details are usually etched into a victim's mind after it occurs (and primarily after the first time it occurs).

Many victims of sexual assault atest that there are details that they'll never, ever forget, for as long as they live... for example, the smells (ie; the smell of his skin, his breath, his sweat, what he was wearing when they were assaulted, etc).

If the other 2 or 3 boy are NOT involved, they'll usually look one of two ways... they'll either look totally shocked and/or completely speechless at such an implausible accusation, sometimes they'll stammer from shock too.

If they ARE aware of who did it (but the guilty party is not themselves) is where kids being young and untrained in deception comes in handy for you, because they'll tell you the answer with just a few involuntarily reactions (or they' could potentially volunteer the info to you immediately, it all depends on either how scared/intimidated they are of you, or possibly their moral sensibilities kick in).

[b] It's ALL in the eyes[/b].

1. The most likely way to determine who the guilty party is . . .

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Your billion paragraph dissertation is too much.  WTF[/quote]

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