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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All the people saying they would never send a spouse back to the store are missing the point.  We are not talking about getting 1% instead of 2% milk.  We are talking about men who would go to the store to shop for the whole family and forget 50% of the items needed for anyone other than him.  So no milk for the kids, no bread for sandwiches, no lettuce for wife’s daily salad, but lots of his favorite kind of pretzels and plenty of beer.  If you said you would do the weekly grocery shopping and you don’t get some version of the staples required for the family to function for a week, then you have not successfully done the weekly grocery shopping.  Because someone else is going to have to redo the chore and get the needed food.

Likewise with bathrooms we are not talking about “they cleaned everything but there’s water-spots on the shower door!”  We are talking about “he wiped down the tub, toilet seat and counter with the same wet rag, in that order, with no actual cleaners involved.”  There is in fact a baseline of acceptable cleanliness where you should be sanitizing high-touch surfaces with some sort of cleaning supply and scrubbing the sh!t-stains from inside the toilet bowl.  If you don’t do that, then someone else will need to clean the tub properly so that the kids can safely take baths in a clean tub, and sanitize the counters and handles so that people can wash their hands and end up with clean hands.[/quote]

These threads always go this way. Somehow it’s always the wife who needs to relax her standards and stop being a perfectionist. People ignore that there is an objective reality of what constitutes getting something done or not.

Also we have little kids so while he’s at the store or redoing the bathroom (or I’m doing the same) the other one is tending to the kids. So it’s not like I can just make it his problem or let him experience the “natural consequences “. Our lives are interlinked and DH doing a bad job makes my life harder, no matter how you slice it.

Not all husbands are just dying for sex and willing to do anything to get it either, like a PP suggests.[/quote]

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