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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]All the people saying they would never send a spouse back to the store are missing the point.  We are not talking about getting 1% instead of 2% milk.  We are talking about men who would go to the store to shop for the whole family and forget 50% of the items needed for anyone other than him.  So no milk for the kids, no bread for sandwiches, no lettuce for wife’s daily salad, but lots of his favorite kind of pretzels and plenty of beer.  If you said you would do the weekly grocery shopping and you don’t get some version of the staples required for the family to function for a week, then you have not successfully done the weekly grocery shopping.  Because someone else is going to have to redo the chore and get the needed food.

Likewise with bathrooms we are not talking about “they cleaned everything but there’s water-spots on the shower door!”  We are talking about “he wiped down the tub, toilet seat and counter with the same wet rag, in that order, with no actual cleaners involved.”  There is in fact a baseline of acceptable cleanliness where you should be sanitizing high-touch surfaces with some sort of cleaning supply and scrubbing the sh!t-stains from inside the toilet bowl.  If you don’t do that, then someone else will need to clean the tub properly so that the kids can safely take baths in a clean tub, and sanitize the counters and handles so that people can wash their hands and end up with clean hands.[/quote]

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ITA. I think people were feeling defensive and so looking for ways to poke holes in the OP and attack what she said. When really, I think the OP is completely rational. I see no problem whatsoever with holding me to higher standards, the same standards that women are held to.

I'm trying to imagine myself "making" my husband go back to the grocery store if he forgot something that we needed that night or the next morning. I can't see it but, then, I ALSO can't see being married to someone who wouldn't volunteer to go back after discovering that they forgot something important. I wouldn't have married someone who could go to the grocery store, not find the things they need, and then not even ask an employee for help but rather just shrug their shoulders and think to themselves that I'll deal with it later. NOPE. Just NO.

Same with doing a half ass job of cleaning. If my husband tells me he is going to clean the bathroom or kitchen or whatever, he does the job 100%. I can't imagine being married to someone not like that.

Some of the stories in here about people's husbands and what they are like...my god. I really can't imagine it. Letting your child sit in a dirty diaper all day? Bringing in a dishwasher technician to try to prove you wrong? NOPE.[/quote]

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