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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think a lot depends on the temperament of your kids. Some kids are easy, and others have very demanding personalities or needs.

FWIW, I have no dog in this fight. I have a PhD with tenure at a university and my income is in the low $100s with really good benefits--a "dream" job, for sure--and there are certainly days, weeks, even months, when I feel like I would rather be a little bored at home than feel the pressure of publishing (yes, it exists, even after you have tenure) or deal with the petty politics of academia. DH makes 7-figures, so I certainly don't need to work for the money. I can easily imagine filling SAHM days with working out, cooking nice meals, home improvement, shopping, reading good books, hanging out with friends, and volunteering. I would be happy, even if a little bored at times.

But, I do go to work because I think that lowering stress for my family is not the end-all-be-all of life--especially if you have the means and ability to contribute to society in a meaningful way.  It's not an issue of wanting to contribute to society, it's more like a moral obligation. I accept that most people, especially women, have been conditioned to not think about contributing to society as imperative, but rather as an option. [/quote]

I had the opposite of what you are saying.  It was a huge expectation from my family that I work.  I never ever considered staying home till we had our child.  My husband was the first person to put it in my head as an option and I thought he was nuts and my parents would be so upset.  After our child, our childcare fell through and my parents wouldn't help till I could find something else (my mom retired and she was pushing me working) so I had no option but to quit.  It never ever occurred to me I'd be home and it never occurred to me it was an option.  Years later, my mom is still bitter even though she doesn't give us a dime or help in any way.[/quote]

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