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[quote=Anonymous]Man this thread makes me glad I got married at 29, 8 years ago. I don't see anything wrong with dating within your race or religion. Did it myself. I'm Jewish, wanted to prioritize marrying a Jewish man or else a non-Jewish man who would agree to raise his children Jewish. Met my husband on JDate, the end. I don't see anything wrong with dating outside your race or religion either. My sister married a Latino guy. Makes for more potential marital problems since he's not Jewish and she wants to raise the kids Jewish, but that's their issue to work out. He's a nice guy and he makes her happy, so that makes the rest of the family happy.

Personally, the people I know who married in their late 20s and early 30s and who are happy prioritized compatibility and personality over finances, looks, and sexual chemistry (with one exception -- friends who had a one-night stand and had such chemistry they started dating and eventually got married). My single friends who are late-30s sleep with guys on the first or second date and then complain they can't find a good guy. To me it seems obvious that a guy who expects sex so early in the relationship is either not genuinely interested, or prioritizing the physical over other aspects of life. That kind of guy is probably hot but seems, to me, less likely to make a good family man. My friends also have very high standards with regard to the guy's looks and job, even when they are not necessarily perfect-looking themselves. Personally I think a guy's personality is more important than his looks or job. I would date a genuinely nice plumber or teacher over an asshole doctor or lawyer. (And I am a lawyer.) But my single friends -- who are white and Christian, by the way -- won't even consider guys who don't match them in education.

I think it's more a late-30s women thing than a racial thing, though I'm sure there are trends within racial or religious communities. I imagine single late-30s or 40s guys have their own hangups, but I don't have any friends or colleagues in this demographic.[/quote]

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