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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]High Achieving early 30's black male here who is single. I have dated many of these AA high achieving women and this has been my experience. Most of them have no depth.  My most common takeway is "Great you have all these degrees, you're still boring and not that interesting. Your job isn't your passion and out side of work and the common bougie minority woman activities of traveling and brunch, they're not that in tune with themselves or what they want. Some of them want a guy who is an accessory and not a partner. Others have baggage from failed relationships, or just finally discovering who they are after spending most of their 20's in school. Women are interesting, and the high achieving minority  AA female is probably the most interesting in that her accomplishments are often times an inverse portrait of her self esteem when it comes to personal self worth outside of job/career/education.

I may be different though the degree thing isnt that important to me, I dont have a single woman in my family who either at least doesnt have a Masters (just one) /  MD / DDS / PHD / JD or MBA from a top 10 institution. So smart women dont intimidate me, most of them just dont pass muster to the women in my life. [/quote]
There's something very off about your claim that every high achieving woman of color you have ever met is lacking in depth and dragging baggage around. I have a very hard time believing that they are the problem. In fact, your statements are the exact sort of thing that men intimidated and offended by smart women like to say. I am not an AA woman, but AA men approach me a lot. I have definitely noticed that [b]AA men more often than not have a certain hostility and envy of accomplished
women.[/b] It's sad, but I guess it makes sense considering that AA men are the least accomplished men in America.[/quote]

I sooo agree with the bolded. It seems AA men see AA women as competition. I'm not surprised an AA man has this assessment of his AA women peers.

No highly educated, accomplished male of any other race speaks this way of their women. And race be damned, we all know that women are women and can be a bit much for a man to deal with. But somehow, white men seem to get on just well with their highly educated white women who can be just as shallow as any other women.

Black men really need to get it together, stop competing with and envying their women and start loving and uplifting them.[/quote]

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