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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can’t believe anyone can possibly agree with OP. It’s clear that the wife was paying her father back because there previously were payments to be stopped. However, OP and his wife decided she would stop having an income, which their decision to make, but OP refused to accept one of the results of that decision which is that he would need to foot all of his wife’s bills, which includes the one to her parents, whether he likes it or not. Instead he decided her father didn’t deserve to be paid back, so he just wouldn’t. His FIL is not choosing not to cut off his daughter over this but is upset.

OP sounds like a physician with a god complex who enjoys having his wife dependent on him so he can call the shots and force his own agenda based on how he views her family. He clearly enjoys feeling like a benefactor and still doesn’t understand that it’s easy to be generous when you have a ton of money and resources and have never had to struggle.

The father in law sounds like an interesting person who has done a lot with very little. I am not going to make the same decisions but I have a lot of respect for someone who likely really hustled and sacrificed in a way OP will probably never understand. [/quote]

The FIL sucks if he has a mid-8-figure income and wants his SIL to pay back his daughter's "loan" for college that was never even documented. I don't respect that at all.  My father is similar to OP's FIL, and even though he never went to college, he paid for all of our education - law school, medical school, pilot training - we pretty much got a blank check if it was in furtherance of our path toward self-sufficiency.  Now we cover our own expenses, but education?  Of course, he paid.    [/quote]

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