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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you keep posting the same story over and over again: I can recall at least 2 other topics involving finances and your DH/ILs (e.g., here http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/463723.page). You also tend to get angry pretty fast, which tells me you are not the easiest housemate. Given that, I highly doubt your MIL would move in with you before checking out all other available options. [/quote]

Um, you do realize that Op's story is pretty common, right? It's even common across races.

My Indian in laws basically had kids as a get out of jail free in old age and didn't do much to take care of them. I (white chick) met DH in college and we paid his loans together - mostly on my salary.

In laws want to put us on the hook for their care because of culture, DH is oldest son, yada yada.

It sucks. I swear it's always the parents who didn't do a whole lot for their kids who are super entitled. Makes sense though. If they were responsible, they wouldn't need to lay the guilt on their kids for money.[/quote]

Yeah, I married into an East Asian family, and it is a given with everyone that children are the parents' retirement plan, no matter what. Their homes are full of nasty old parents and in-laws who abused or abandoned them as kids, but the grown children have to let them live with them, have to pay for everything, have to cook, clean, drive them around, and do everything for them. It's a legacy of misery, because the elders had to put up with it, and they want their due now.[/quote]

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