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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I am in a marriage that is the second for both of us.   Both of us have kids.  Kids range in age from 8-16.  Kids are incredibly forgetful and we are shuttling back and forth more than we'd like to get things they need that are in the other house.  The parent driving the kid ALWAYS waits in the car while the kid goes in to get what they need.  The parent waiting in the car is not being shut out of the kid's life.  It's a few minutes in the car, not a big deal.  It's not my house -- I have no desire or right to be there.

The kids are going to grow up just like their mother -- not respecting boundaries -- unless you put a stop to this.  But DH should be the one dealing with her, not you. 
She has no right to enter into your house.  She's really got some nerve.

[b]I think DH should tell her that her repeated entry into the house is really disrespectful and that she needs to wait outside from now on.[/b]  [/quote]

She's their mom, not the UPS delivery guy.  [/quote]

Yes, she's their mom, and what she is teaching them is that it's okay to disrespect people and their boundaries.  What she's teaching them is that they have a right to make people uncomfortable whenever they wish, and that they have no obligation to be considerate of other people's needs.  She's a bad mom, essentially, at least in this regard.

I am 100% in favor of parents with shared custody being open to blurring the lines about seeing their children during noncustodial time.  My DH would see his daughter almost every day after school until her mom came home, and would take her out to dinner on nights her mom was working late, even if it was her mom's week.  Her mom was welcome to see her during our weeks, too, though she never did.  But barging into an ex's home and hanging out there when you have been repeatedly asked not to is simply not acceptable.   If she wants to spend time with them, she can bring them to her place or take them out somewhere.  [/quote]

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