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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Attention all self-accepting fatties: if you were overweight when dating, then obviously your spouse is also "accepting" and has no reason (or right) to complain later.

But... and this is pretty important for you to understand ... if you've gained a bunch of weight during the marriage, just because YOU accept this, does not mean your SPOUSE accepts this (or that you can ever make him/her accept this).

Many of us are just NOT attracted to overweight partners, so this is not a sustainable marriage. So the choice is yours: lose the weight to save the marriage, or "self-accept" into a divorce so each can find a more compatible partner.

Neither view is right, neither is wrong, just different.[/quote]

No matter what your beliefs on any of this is, you've no right to call anyone a "fattie". What a mean, first grade name to call someone. If I caught my teenager saying that, I'd ground her for a month. We are all humans with feelings, try acting like an adult. [/quote]

Adult fattie here.  I need to lose about 30 lbs. 50 and I would be at my high school weight.  Calories are too easy to access, and we don't expend enough energy.  Chick Fil-a wrap with no dressing and a small fry is 650 calories.  That's not much food, and if you are trying to lose weight that is over 1/3 of your allowable calories.  Add a medium coke and you are over 800.  A quarter pounder w cheese and large fry is 1000 calories.  Terrible for you in so many ways, but also over half your day's intake.  Sit down restaurants are even worse simply due to portion size.  You eat out 3 meals a week or more and you are likely going way over what want.

It really is as simple as calories in < calories out, but simple does not mean easy.

Weight loss is about calorie restriction, which is about hunger control, which is about a million different things.[/quote]

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