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We hear this constant strain about being content with your body even if you are fat. Seriously, few people really are happy with it even if they claim they are. It does not mean one needs to be a size 4 to achieve nirvana but being a size 14 is not it either. You can do something about it for your own self-esteem, your health, your outlook on life, your social acceptance, etc. Or you can pretend that it does not matter and you are fine being obese. Most people are not fine with it and the very protestations on this thread by those who offer rationalizations about being fat are evidence of it.

[url]http://www.livescience.com/35448-global-obesity-nearly-doubles-in-30-years-study-finds.html[/url][/quote]

Of course most fat people are not "fine with it".  But once you are fat, you are probably fat for life.  So, is a fat person supposed to hate themselves for life and resolve to be unhappy in a perpetual never-to-be-achieved goal of being thin?  Are fat people supposed to put their lives on hold and dedicate themselves to a "Biggest Loser" lifestyle of constant obsession with food intake and exercise in the hopes of being one of the rare 5% who can keep weight off after losing it?

You see, what you are advocating is for people to not be fine with themselves and diet in order to lose weight.  95% of those people will gain all the weight back, and 75% of them will actually end up heavier 5 years later, which makes them exponentially less healthy than they were before they dieted in the first place.  Essentially, what you are advocating is self-hatred that inevitably (except for the rare 5%) results in a person being less healthy.

Personally, I advocate self-acceptance and self-love.  I advocate fat people taking care of themselves right now, loving who they are right now, moving their bodies, eating healthfully, dressing in a way that makes them feel as good as they can about the body they have now, and refusing to wait for the "dream of being thin" in order to live their lives as fully as possible.  If their body shape changes in a way they like, that's great.  But be healthy now.  Love life now.  Live life now.   And apologize to no one, especially people who don't see you as a person and only see the fat.[/quote]

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