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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My brother is married to a gorgeous woman (truly gorgeous) who is about a size 14. She is a caterer so food is her life. She is an amazing person, she has tried to lose weight but says she is meant to be this size. She is actually healthy and doesn't look super big, just slightly larger. She is a great dresser and always well put together and most important my brother is crazy about her.

I would like to think that beauty is more than just a clothing size. Just be healthy, whether for you that is 120 or 160 lbs and of course feel good about who you are. Self love is most important...the rest will follow.[/quote]

I don't understand the need to constantly play down the adverse impact of being overweight/obese. If you want to say that a person can be a size 14 but still be a really nice person who would make a great partner, I would agree but the reality is that discrimination is rife when it comes to such people.

Unless there are medical reasons, one should lose weight for reasons of health, social acceptance and self-esteem. Stop deluding those faced with this challenge that it really does not matter.

You don't become a size 14 without making poor choices and making the correct choices can rectify the situation.[/quote]

Not true. I'm a small boned person (I wear a 5 ring) and that cuts me a break when it comes to carrying some extra lbs, but I have friends who have large bones and wide hips who are very active (run marathons even) and "eat clean" but still wear a 14. Starving yourself and excessive exercise just to drop a dress size are also poor choices.[/quote]

[b]Seriously, someone who runs marathons and maintains some sort of exercise regimen in the interim will not be a size 14[/b] - as long as they don't eat like there is no tomorrow. I say this from experience and from knowing numerous people who run. If what you are saying is that someone ran a marathon and then relapsed in exercising little or not at all, you may be right.

Eat healthy, don't deprive yourself but don't overeat and exercise regularly and you will not only lose weight but you will feel better than you have ever done. Ever noticed that at Whole Foods, you rarely see an obese person and few are even overweight. Now everyone cannot afford to shop at Whole Foods but you can still eat healthy shopping at other places.

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Say what? I'll be the first to say that there is no way the OP is a 14 at 215. My DH is 215, works out daily, and is 6'2" and has a ton of muscle mass. He is a BIG MAN. I cannot even fathom that on a woman who is a 14. I myself was a 14 and no way could my DH have put my clothes on without ripping them and I was 5'9" and 185.

With that said, at a size 14, I ran and lifted. I clocked about 25 miles a week. I was not fast, but certainly hauled my fat ass over the finish line of the MCM two years in a row. Lots and lots of fat marathon runners. I'm always fattest leading up to a marathon because I eat so incredibly much when I'm running 40 miles a week!

Granted, I'm now 145 and my time has greatly improved. My fat self used to run at a 10 min pace, now I run 8.[/quote]

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