Anonymous wrote:Op here- Another update... After the disaster last weekend (please see my previous update, I think on page 12 or 13) I decided this week to be kinder to myself. I joined back at weight watchers and also started doing couch to 5k. It's only been a few days, but I'm on my way. In the past I've used set backs like this as an excuse to eat away the pain, but this time I'm doing things differently. People don't always update on DCUM, but if it's okay I'd like to update in a few months because I really feel like things are going to get better. Maybe I needed this bad experience as motivation to get healthy for myself. I think maybe if my self esteem wasn't so low from the weight, I would have made choices about men. Wish me luck!

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Anonymous wrote:Fat people eat an average of 6700 calories a day. Obese people obviously eat more.

LOL you are talking out your ass. I'm 30 pounds overweight and I eat about 2500 calories a day. Of course, I am a premenopausal woman of 50 so there you go - no metabolism left.

Nope, got it from a New York Times article about obese people and calories. Literally, that's the average, though the article does go on to say that some people have odd metabolisms. Uh, I guess like all the obese women on DCUM who wear size 14.

If you want to lose 30 pounds, you either have to start burning an extra 1000 calories a day, or eat 1000 less calories a day. Stop blaming it on your age.

I'm in my forties, and I don't know any women who eat more than 1200-1500 calories a day, unless they exercise a lot.

That's why you're fat. If you have a problem with my numbers, write a letter to the NY Times.

Anonymous wrote:Op here- Another update... After the disaster last weekend (please see my previous update, I think on page 12 or 13) I decided this week to be kinder to myself. I joined back at weight watchers and also started doing couch to 5k. It's only been a few days, but I'm on my way. In the past I've used set backs like this as an excuse to eat away the pain, but this time I'm doing things differently. People don't always update on DCUM, but if it's okay I'd like to update in a few months because I really feel like things are going to get better. Maybe I needed this bad experience as motivation to get healthy for myself. I think maybe if my self esteem wasn't so low from the weight, I would have made choices about men. Wish me luck!

Op here- Another update... After the disaster last weekend (please see my previous update, I think on page 12 or 13) I decided this week to be kinder to myself. I joined back at weight watchers and also started doing couch to 5k. It's only been a few days, but I'm on my way. In the past I've used set backs like this as an excuse to eat away the pain, but this time I'm doing things differently. People don't always update on DCUM, but if it's okay I'd like to update in a few months because I really feel like things are going to get better. Maybe I needed this bad experience as motivation to get healthy for myself. I think maybe if my self esteem wasn't so low from the weight, I would have made choices about men. Wish me luck!

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Anonymous wrote:Fat people eat an average of 6700 calories a day. Obese people obviously eat more.

LOL you are talking out your ass. I'm 30 pounds overweight and I eat about 2500 calories a day. Of course, I am a premenopausal woman of 50 so there you go - no metabolism left.

Nope, got it from a New York Times article about obese people and calories. Literally, that's the average, though the article does go on to say that some people have odd metabolisms. Uh, I guess like all the obese women on DCUM who wear size 14.

If you want to lose 30 pounds, you either have to start burning an extra 1000 calories a day, or eat 1000 less calories a day. Stop blaming it on your age.

I'm in my forties, and I don't know any women who eat more than 1200-1500 calories a day, unless they exercise a lot.

That's why you're fat. If you have a problem with my numbers, write a letter to the NY Times.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm reading these topics to ky DH tonight. .commenting on these posts. His response to this one " sure, she probably gives out , but damn, she's my size!"

You are one lucky woman!

Yup, see OPs update at 07/01/2014 20:36…..I am lucky. He tells it like it is.

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Anonymous wrote:Fat people eat an average of 6700 calories a day. Obese people obviously eat more.

LOL you are talking out your ass. I'm 30 pounds overweight and I eat about 2500 calories a day. Of course, I am a premenopausal woman of 50 so there you go - no metabolism left.

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This made me LOL. Have you ever been to a marathon? They are some seriously HUGE people who run marathons.

And also eating at WF will not make you skinny! They still sell all kinds of crap there.

Have I been to a marathon? LOL!!

I have run numerous marathons and still do even after having several children. Am a member of a runner's club and there is not a single person in the club who is overweight let alone a size 14. Sure there are those who run a marathon who are overweight because they do it as a matter of personal achievement - and all power to them for doing so.

But if you exercise regularly and eat without gorging on food, you will lose weight absent any medical issues. You can rant until kingdom come about those who are not able to lose weight because of slow metabolism, etc but that is just rationalizing. Also, you don't need to deprive yourself to keep your weight under control.

I don't count calories but estimate that I eat over 3000 calories a day because I work out. Most people who claim to eat a limited amount and yet not lose weight are way over-eating. They delude themselves that they are not eating much. Combine uncontrolled eating with a sedentary life and you will become overweight or obese.

But all of the above is neither here nor there. If you are OK with being overweight that is fine but don't delude yourself that it does not take a toll on your health, how you are perceived by others, and how it might affect your own self-esteem.

You are cracking me up!

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This made me LOL. Have you ever been to a marathon? They are some seriously HUGE people who run marathons.

And also eating at WF will not make you skinny! They still sell all kinds of crap there.

Have I been to a marathon? LOL!!

I have run numerous marathons and still do even after having several children. Am a member of a runner's club and there is not a single person in the club who is overweight let alone a size 14. Sure there are those who run a marathon who are overweight because they do it as a matter of personal achievement - and all power to them for doing so.

But if you exercise regularly and eat without gorging on food, you will lose weight absent any medical issues. You can rant until kingdom come about those who are not able to lose weight because of slow metabolism, etc but that is just rationalizing. Also, you don't need to deprive yourself to keep your weight under control.

I don't count calories but estimate that I eat over 3000 calories a day because I work out. Most people who claim to eat a limited amount and yet not lose weight are way over-eating. They delude themselves that they are not eating much. Combine uncontrolled eating with a sedentary life and you will become overweight or obese.

But all of the above is neither here nor there. If you are OK with being overweight that is fine but don't delude yourself that it does not take a toll on your health, how you are perceived by others, and how it might affect your own self-esteem.

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Anonymous wrote:My brother is married to a gorgeous woman (truly gorgeous) who is about a size 14. She is a caterer so food is her life. She is an amazing person, she has tried to lose weight but says she is meant to be this size. She is actually healthy and doesn't look super big, just slightly larger. She is a great dresser and always well put together and most important my brother is crazy about her.

I would like to think that beauty is more than just a clothing size. Just be healthy, whether for you that is 120 or 160 lbs and of course feel good about who you are. Self love is most important...the rest will follow.

I don't understand the need to constantly play down the adverse impact of being overweight/obese. If you want to say that a person can be a size 14 but still be a really nice person who would make a great partner, I would agree but the reality is that discrimination is rife when it comes to such people.

Unless there are medical reasons, one should lose weight for reasons of health, social acceptance and self-esteem. Stop deluding those faced with this challenge that it really does not matter.

You don't become a size 14 without making poor choices and making the correct choices can rectify the situation.

Not true. I'm a small boned person (I wear a 5 ring) and that cuts me a break when it comes to carrying some extra lbs, but I have friends who have large bones and wide hips who are very active (run marathons even) and "eat clean" but still wear a 14. Starving yourself and excessive exercise just to drop a dress size are also poor choices.

Seriously, someone who runs marathons and maintains some sort of exercise regimen in the interim will not be a size 14 - as long as they don't eat like there is no tomorrow. I say this from experience and from knowing numerous people who run. If what you are saying is that someone ran a marathon and then relapsed in exercising little or not at all, you may be right.

Eat healthy, don't deprive yourself but don't overeat and exercise regularly and you will not only lose weight but you will feel better than you have ever done. Ever noticed that at Whole Foods, you rarely see an obese person and few are even overweight. Now everyone cannot afford to shop at Whole Foods but you can still eat healthy shopping at other places.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm reading these topics to ky DH tonight. .commenting on these posts. His response to this one " sure, she probably gives out , but damn, she's my size!"

You are one lucky woman!

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:


This made me LOL. Have you ever been to a marathon? They are some seriously HUGE people who run marathons.

And also eating at WF will not make you skinny! They still sell all kinds of crap there.

Have I been to a marathon? LOL!!

I have run numerous marathons and still do even after having several children. Am a member of a runner's club and there is not a single person in the club who is overweight let alone a size 14. Sure there are those who run a marathon who are overweight because they do it as a matter of personal achievement - and all power to them for doing so.

But if you exercise regularly and eat without gorging on food, you will lose weight absent any medical issues. You can rant until kingdom come about those who are not able to lose weight because of slow metabolism, etc but that is just rationalizing. Also, you don't need to deprive yourself to keep your weight under control.

I don't count calories but estimate that I eat over 3000 calories a day because I work out. Most people who claim to eat a limited amount and yet not lose weight are way over-eating. They delude themselves that they are not eating much. Combine uncontrolled eating with a sedentary life and you will become overweight or obese.

But all of the above is neither here nor there. If you are OK with being overweight that is fine but don't delude yourself that it does not take a toll on your health, how you are perceived by others, and how it might affect your own self-esteem.