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I’m going to take a deep breath here.

Son came by. Pale as a ghost, tears.

I hugged him and said, “I’m sorry, is it over now?”

And he shook his head.

It’s a 32 week pregnancy. There is definitely going to be a baby. I do not know how they did not know, but also something like this has not been in my own life experience. I know it does happen but this one was not in my crystal ball.

Now it’s obvious that this is why he said he saw them crossing lines through the word “abortion” at the initial planned parenthood appointment.

He’s obviously absolutely terrified. Also, definitely in a ton of shock. I asked if he knows it’s a girl or a boy, and he said his girlfriend knows, but he did not want to know.

I said, “yes, you do need to know. Until you know whether it’s a boy or a girl it’s going to continue to be something terrifying, a monster shadowing everything. You’re going to have to know whether it’s a boy or girl either way, but that baby needs to become a human. Once it stops being something threatening you, and you realize you’re the one responsible for its future, and it not being something that will ruin yours, it will stop being so scary.”

We went through all the things. You’re in shock etc. Anyone would be. But I’m not upset, I’m not angry, this stuff happens EVERY DAY. You’ve been through college and your licensing. You have a good job. Money is one of the first, most real things to worry about, but you’ve got that support system. Costs are covered. Your dad and I aren’t together but we will both support you and your girlfriend 100%. No one is cutting you loose or insisting you get married, or insisting that you do anything.

I gave him an Ativan from the stash I rarely use myself. Today’s 100% a day for that.

I do not know what is going to happen. He was here for about an hour. He’s absolutely 100% shook, but there’s only so much someone else can talk at him and only so much he can process at one time.

I don’t know whether she’s talked to her mother. She lives with her mother and her grandma. I don’t think they all have the most ideal relationships with one another but who knows. I’m just guessing they will have an opinion one way or another.

He’s on his way now to tell his Dad in person. I have 100 things to say about his dad, but at least I know in this case he’s going to do and say all the rest of the right things. His dad is good at handling stuff like this.

Kind peeps of DCUM, I swear that of all the things I thought I was going to ultimately update with, this is a set of circumstances I absolutely did not expect.

I’m not even sure I’ve absorbed it yet, since I don’t want to get invested too far either way.

Still can’t talk to anyone else about it for the time being, so thanks for listening.

A lot of decisions have to be made now. [/quote]

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