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[quote=Anonymous]You get creative. It sounds like you have grandparents nearby. We don't. Our parents are also too old to watch young kids for multiple days anyway. But one thing we do is we will visit our parents, let our kid stay with them, and we will get a hotel room or AirBnB for ourselves. It's not a totally kid free vacation -- we wind up spending time with our parents of course, and do family things with everyone and still have plenty of time with kids. But we also get solo time and our kids have fun doing sleepovers. Since we're local, if anything went wrong we could be there soon. So it's not that different from just getting a sitter or letting parents babysit for a date night. But we are not at home and get to stay in a hotel, go out to dinner, go out to a bar, sleep in.

Even with local grandparents, you could do similar. Just get a local hotel or something no more than an hour away. Your spouse should be fine with this, presumably your kids go to school or daycare and spend time that far away from you with various caregivers. Certainly you could do that for a night, maybe even two if you could easily check in on grandparents and maybe get them some relief from the kids during the day (playdate, gymnastics class, etc.). But you get solo time with your spouse.

When our kids are old enough, we will send them to sleep away camp. Our friends who do this get two full weeks every summer of kid free time to travel, hang out, get back in touch with each other. Sounds good.

I feel like before we know it they will be teens and to the point where we can leave them home alone. You can't look at it like a jail sentence. Get creative, find other ways to connect solo with your spouse, work it out. My DH and I often do weekday daytime dates. We use vacation leave to take the afternoon off, go out to lunch, see a movie, and then get a drink together, before picking kids up from aftercare and going home for family dinner. We'll do this on a Friday once every 6-8 weeks and it's a really nice way to reconnect. We like it better than hiring a sitter for an evening date because we get more time and we're not both exhausted, places aren't crazy crowded, etc.

You work it out.[/quote]

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