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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The age of the kids really matters here IMO.

For kids 4ish & under (especially if multiple kids those ages) -and anything more than maybe one night- it is a big ask of someone unless it is a very capable grandparent or regular nanny. And it is understandable why some parents would be uncomfortable leaving kids those ages for multiple nights if not totally confident in the caregiver.

For school aged kids it is much easier and there are a lot of options.

We didn’t have any family capable of watching our very small children (infant-preschool ages), but left them with our wonderful regular sitter overnight several times (only for one night and didn’t go too far).

Once they were a little older we had so many more options- friends, sitters, other extended family etc. My bachelor BIL (not comfortable with infants but great with older kids) even took them for a weekend once, and they had a great time. One time we asked a young aftercare teacher from their elementary school, and that also went great.

Just wanted to highlight that if your kids are very small- this issue doesn’t last forever, or their whole childhoods. And it doesn’t necessarily mean OPs wife is a crazy helicopter parent either. It is just a little trickier to leave very little ones if you don’t have reliable close family (and the wife doesn’t feel her mom is reliable, obviously) or a nanny.

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+1  It may be too much to ask a MIL to take care of two tiny kids, but by the time they're toilet trained and school age, a lot of older adults in reasonable health can handle them.  Or you just do what others do when they don't have family around and shell out for a overnight babysitter.   Since there's only OP and spouse, it's good to have babysitters on the roster, so you have a trusted adult you can leave the kids with, if anything ever happens to one of you healthwise and the other spouse needs to be with you at the hospital.[/quote]

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