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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP might be rage bait but I have wondered this.

I only have two kids but haven’t felt overwhelmed. I have two neighbors, one a SAHM, with only children and they constantly talk about how busy and stressed they are. I think you see life through your own lens and certain outlooks encourage those feelings of stress and overwhelm.[/quote]

Or, perhaps, people are actually different and are living entirely different lives than you!  I know, it sounds crazy!

Did you know that some women experience more pain, more bleeding, longer cycles, etc. during their periods than other women?!  I’m sure some of you who are blessed with regular cycles, average flow, and mild cramps that last last half a day assume your sisters are drama llamas or just not as tough or looking at life through the wrong lens when they experience debilitating symptoms approximately once a month…[/quote]

So, these ladies have a hard time with the basics of life because of their periods? That’s a lot of projecting but okay. Perhaps. [/quote]

New Poster here/ not the one you are responding to. But maybe my perspective can help. What PP said about periods resonated with me. I am like OP, deep down I don’t always undertand how some of my friends get so overwhelmed with 2 kids (that [b]from the outside I don’t see as particularly difficult or special needs) .But I also had a very belated aha moment that I would be ashamed to admit in real life : I finally understood the craziness and pain of periods and hormone fluctuations at 45 years old…[/b] and this helped me understand  a lot of the pain frazzledness, mom rage, exhaustion, emotional drain and angst, you name it, all the stuff I didn’t understand before.

Not because the periods explained everything else but just because I discovered how my body could create an alternate experience and reality that I objectively didn’t expect. And it made me question everything else.

I am still very emotionally detached or very level headed - I am using those words for lack of better words but there is no judgment or feeling that I am better than my friends - but with peri menopause I discovered a new experience. Including (but not only) directly linked to my periods, with headaches, exhaustion, pain, emotional distress, feeling overwhelmed etc.. all of this coming right before my period. I have found it fascinating. And taught me a humbling lesson on how imperfect emu self control was.

And to be clear : not relegating any feminist ideal here. I don’t think men are less influenced by their hormones. Testosterone clearly often ends up in the driver seat [/quote]

For a board obsessed with the SAT and college admissions, the lack of basic reading comprehension on display is downright shocking.

ANALOGY

The aha moment shouldn’t be about JUST periods - it should be that other people have can entirely different experiences than you, even if from the outside it would look like the same experience.

So to be clear:
 you don’t know just by looking at a woman what her periods are like, and it’s asinine to assume they’re the exact same as yours,
 JUST AS 
you don’t know by looking at a child or a parent what their (temperament, finances, job stress, mental illness, friendships, intelligence, etc. ad infinitum) are like and it’s asinine to assume they’re the exact same as yours.
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