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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Above poster is probably one of these types and a big thing I notice about them is they have no insecurity or humility whatsoever. Everything in their lives is perfect. Perfect husband, perfect kids, perfect house. If your life isn't perfect, you went wrong somewhere and you bring negative energy.
I think of it as being real! Nobody is in jail or anything but my family and house are far from perfect.[/quote]

Everyone has insecurities. [/quote]

No, they truly don't.
I was attempting friendship with one of these a while back and every conversation collapsed because of this.
"Mikeys not very athletic so I'm trying to encourage x and y. He said recess has been kind of a struggle." "That's strange. All my kids are super sporty, because we encourage being active in our family." I literally just said that we encourage that too!
"I'm going crazy with my kitchen remodel, the contractor did x and y." "I'm so glad we made sure to buy a beautifully maintained house so we never had to worry about that. My kitchen is amazing."[/quote]

If they weren't insecure, they wouldn't feel the need to 'one-up' everything you say. It's their coping mechanism.[/quote]
Preach! 🙌🏾[/quote]

They are not one-upping, it is called having a conversation, a back and forth. Yes, we know narcissist don't like being questioned, like to have the last word, want everyone to share their worldview, but this is not going to happen. [/quote]

The example the PP gave was definitely one-upping. Responding to someone saying "I'm struggling with X" by saying "Oh I never struggle with X" is not a "back and forth." It's treating a conversation like a contest.

It's the one-upper who wants everyone to share their worldview, usually that they are superior and make all the best choices. The PP was just trying to relate to a fellow parent or homeowner.[/quote]

No, its a back and forth. One person is sharing their experience, the other person shared theirs. Maybe the other person is trying to convey that they are not the person to help you with your struggle because they can't relate to it. [/quote]

If you want to dig in on that theory, go ahead. It will not net you any friends. But that's your choice.[/quote]

Ok..."If you want to dig in on that theory, go ahead. It will not net you any friends. But that's your choice." is a really manipulative and inaccurate way to assert that you don't agree with me.[/quote]

How is that manipulative?[/quote]

Because it is.[/quote]

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