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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]12 years and three kids in and it’s like a flip switched.

Always a loving, devoted and present husband and father and within months he has done a 180.

He seems fed up with us all.  I figured it was stress from new job.  Cut him some slack and picked up more responsibilities around the house and with parenting.

He doesn’t want to be around us.  He doesn’t parent.  He sleeps in the basement.

Yes, I thought he may be having an affair. He denies.  We started therapy.  I gave him so many outs.  If he wants a divorce and is that unhappy so be it but his disinterest in his kids is killing me and them.

How does a man go from being the picture perfect involved father to ignoring them at night when they ask for a bedtime story?

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Affair and lying about it

Autism

Work addict and perfectionist

Poor father role model growing up

Not marriage or father material

Acute depression due to new job or chronic depression due to underlying mental disorder(s)[/quote]

All of this. Often they can only put up the facade for so long or by midlife their wants change. Ive seen women go through this too. Stay at home moms just up and leave their family. There are so many ways to get burner phones, hide apps etc. The amount of affair apps is austounding. Mine was a closeted gay and had no less than 10 hidden gay dating apps on his many phones. After one reveal and some understanding what was going it shouldbe enough to tell you. I wish I had realized that the separate bedroom thing was because he wanted time to have online sex talks and searches. He told me he was trying to help me because he snored. Oh well. At least I got some sleep and financial help those 2 years. It's over now and he's still checked out of the family. It had nothing to do with me. Honestly if I had just known and accepted how it was, it would have been ok just having him at the house, driving kids, and contributing money while being checked out of the family. It was the devaluing at home and the fake behavior among friends and family and my kids that I couldn't deal with but now that I know its common, I would have used him like he used me for longer. He also was hiding money. Be careful of your bank accounts. [/quote]

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