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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, you're only lonely because you have committed, so far, to the wrong way to make friends. Make individual friends. Put yourself out there, initiate, as an individual. Accept that there will be a lot of rejection. You will find friends this way.

To find actual friends and not just acquaintances to pass the time with in a certain activity ... no one needs to bring-you-in to their group, any group.[/quote]

I don't think this advice applies to OP though? She didn't see this group at an activity and decide to join up in order to "pass the time." It doesn't sound like OP initiated any effort to join this group, actually.

She made an individual friend, and that friend keeps inviting OP to her group events. OP goes because she likes the friend and would like to meet more people, but then this woman is hostile to her.

I really don't think this is the result of OP going about it "the wrong way." It sounds like she has perfectly good instincts (forming a connection with an individual, being game to meet new people) but that this particular group of women has some toxic in-group qualities that are thwarting her.

OP, I think you should start turning down invites to hang out with the group (don't make a big thing of it, just be busy, tired, etc. when this friend asks) but continue to invite this one friend out for 1:1 hang outs. And then keep trying to make other friends. I don't think you made a mistake here, I just think it's a dead end (which sucks! I wish women didn't do stuff like ethics but obviously they do -- it's happened to me too).

Good luck![/quote]

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