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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I’ve posted a lot in this thread
- mostly saying as a guy I would never cheat because of my own stubbornness, rigid moral code, and integrity.

The summary feedback I received was that was because I am poor and ugly, or something.

Then I read the threads about cheating and I realized huge reasons for my lack of cheating are that 1.  I don’t want to destroy my marriage, 2. I want to be an unimpeachable role model to my kids, and 3.  I have absolutely no interest in ever doing the hard work of repairing a broken marriage with counseling, talking about it, and all that time and BS.  I’d divorce before I did all that crap.  I don’t want to divorce, so therefore the best way to avoid divorce is not to cheat.

So, I think the summary is: ugly or attractive, rich or poor.. if you respect your wife and your family and you don’t want to obliterate your marriage, you don’t cheat.  If you don’t value those things, you might cheat if you have the opportunity.

Rousseau wrote that the criminal consents to punishment by committing the crime.. they know ahead of time that they’re breaking the law and breaking the law has consequences.  To me, if I cheat, it means I am consenting to the consequences of a broken marriage and letting my kids down.  That will simply never happen.[/quote]

I am a man and relate to this completely. I am successful and have had many attractive, smart women hit on me, particularly in my younger days as a married man. I could have easily had not just one or two, but many affairs. The truth is I happen to sincerely like and respect to wife, whom I’ve always found attractive and with whom I’ve been very lucky to have a strong sex life for about 23 years now. My parents had lots of issues with alleged infidelity, and I just hated all the fighting they did, the tears, the hurt feelings, etc. Not only do I have zero interest in going through that, but I would not want to put my wife through that either. Do a lot of men cheat? You bet. Do all men cheat? No. Are they the grotesque ones without any opportunities? No, some men have a rigid moral code and a conscience that they abide that. I feel that I fall in that bucket. I’m sure others do as well, albeit certainly a minority.[/quote]

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