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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.   I now realize that I need to have some difficult conversations with DH about plans for his brother.  The fact that we are making a major financial decision of purchasing a new home, that his mother is unequivocally old, and that his brother is undeniably serious ill is bringing this all to a head.

I should have mentioned earlier that we have substantial savings that we have accumulated over the course of our marriage through our salaries.  It is of course easier to save a lot when we have received the kind of support from my parents that we have.  DH also refuses to use any of our savings for a new house.  He says it's an "emergency fund."  I'm thinking more about this and I think he's full of it--we would only need that kind of money if both of us were out of work for years and the house completely fell apart.  That seems unlikely.  I think he just likes the idea of saving large amounts of money which he plans to spend on his brother.  We can actually afford the kind of house I would like.  He just doesn't want to dip into savings or cut our savings rate.  So he's basically telling me, if you want a house with a yard big enough for a swing set and sandbox and a rec room  for the kids to hang out in, your parents are going to have to pay for it.  This hurts and I don't think is sustainable for the marriage.[/quote]

OP.  Assuming this info. you are adding here is true, you could have led with this in your original post.  You led with your husband's inheritance and special needs brother and of course everyone is jumping on you as heartless.

You have every right to your joint savings, regardless of whether or not your parents contributed anything to your needs.  A discussion with a financial advisor and potentially a therapist for your husband may be in order.  [/quote]

That’s what I said! The inheritance from FIL is a total red herring. The fact is her DH is effectively using the money from her parents to fund his brother’s care. That is not cool.

[b]OP you should ask to delete this thread and re-post with this info if you want helpful advice because your current post, as written, comes off really badly and is why people are still jumping all over you. That is, if you are not a troll. [/b][/quote]

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