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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Oh please. I have 4 kids and am bonded with all of them and woupd totally leave a newborn w dad!!![/quote]

For an entire week?

OP’s baby and DH will be fine, I agree and morally I have zero judgement of her for doing this. There’s nothing wrong with it, BUT....

I’m slightly shocked at how cavalier people are being about her leaving her newborn for a week. Do you know anyone who did that? Did you do that? I am wondering if I’m an outlier but I never did this nor do I know anyone who ever did. I’ve left my kids for a night or two, I work, etc. but [b]it is a little unusual [/b]for a mom to leave her 8 week old for an entire week. That doesn’t mean it’s wrong, but I’m a little shocked at people acting as if this is truly no big deal.[/quote]

DP here.  These are unusual times for everyone.  Normally she could probably hire someone else to care for her dad or her siblings could fly in.  These are not normal times.

Also, while I did not leave my newborns for a week, I [b]did[/b] leave my infants with their father for a week while I went on work trips.  I think it's more unusual to never leave kids with their presumably competent father.[/quote]

Pp here. I left my kids with their “presumably competent father” all the time....for half a day or a day but never for a week. I guess I live in a bubble but none of my friends ever left their newborns to go on business trips, or any other kind of trip. DH tried to go on a trip when we had a 10 week old and I told him no because I couldn’t handle the baby alone for a week. [/quote]

Then you have way more clout at work than I do to be able to tell them no, you're not traveling for work (I'm not being sarcastic- I'm being serious).  But as I said, my children were not newborns, but they were 6 months and older when I traveled for work.  I work for the feds and had major surgery earlier this year that took me out of work for 3 months.  I asked if I could reduce my statutorily required on-site monitoring/auditing by 1/4 to account for the time I was on medical leave; another woman who was pregnant asked the same thing.  The answer was no. The pandemic hit and no one went in-person, but if not, I would've had to squish a year's worth of work trips into a shortened time frame.  Some of us don't have choices if we want to remain gainfully employed.  Would I choose to leave my newborn for shits and giggles? No, I wouldn't but these are odd times which call for desperate measures for some. [/quote]

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