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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here - thanks for the feedback, and I am happy that some of them are sane! I talked to a couple of my friends in the past few days and now I understand (plus from your comments) that I am not supposed to this. I can only make small talk - this is the culture here. Did not know. How sad. So are the many creepy remarks to my very normal and human interaction and reaction. But ok, now I know how I am supposed to behave and will try my best. By the way, my two kids and the other two kids were talking about having a playdate at our house, so as you can see, obviously the other two kids do not have any issues with me. Not sure if their parent will agree to it though. We shall see. We  have plenty of other playdates, but have never had one with these two kids. [/quote]

Sounds like it was a good learning experience for you and no harm was done! Thank you for the update. [/quote]

Dear OP - I feel your pain. I can understand how culture plays a major role in shaping Different attitudes to community and parenting.  In my country, and in OS postings, it has definitely felt more normal for non parent adults to correct kids. I personally welcome adults explaining to my kid in kind and normal ways when she is being unkind or exclusionary or thoughtless in some way.  I also welcome any diplomatic efforts to promote her safety which is complicated these days as kids get older due to social media internet usage. This happened often in our last country posting, and I truly appreciated corrections/ gentle redirections offered with love and kindness, which they nearly always were.

However, people here in the DC area do not usually welcome input into social dynamics from other parents.  It can actually be quite stressful navigating boundaries when you are responsible for child safety at parties/ scout events/ volunteer events or whatever..

Nonetheless, there are many wonderful parents, children, and care takers/ teachers here and it gets easier to adapt to different parenting approaches he longer one is here.

Best wishes and I do hope that you are able to befriend the other parent eventually. It is so easy for misunderstandings to cause unnecessary frictions. [/quote]

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