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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Completely NP here, as I originally thought this thread was just about saying hi to kids in aftercare. Now that I know OP was trying to mediate a conflict between her child and other kids, I have to weigh in on the side of "OP Is Wrong."

Having the mother of one of the kids in the conflict engage with the conflict shifts the power dynamic in a really unhealthy way. It's not good for anyone, not for the kids who are suddenly being ganged up on by an adult, and not for the OP's child, who doesn't learn to mediate their own minor elementary school drama.

That's why parents really need to stay out of this stuff, as they don't have the entire context, and they would never be able to engage objectively even if they did have the entire context.

The aftercare provider is a perfectly appropriate mediator, if mediation is necessary, because they aren't emotionally tied to any of the kids.

OP was wrong. The other parent was absolutely correct. Also, I've lived all over the world and I am struggling to figure out where OP might be from where this is common. Most cultures are MORE interested in letting kids mediate their own conflict, not LESS. [/quote]

I can’t think of anywhere else that it would have been brought up if OP didn’t witness it and it was already over.[/quote]

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