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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]It can be irritating when others correct your kids.  Not in all circumstances- but over the holidays we hosted Christmas dinner and my BIL and SIL who have no kids like to correct and direct my kids.  For example, we were all sitting down to the table and waiting for people to get served food and my three year old is sitting nicely with his new transformer at table while we are waiting to start eating.  My SIL says "No toys at the table Larlo." Where she is getting this rule, as it is our house and our table and he is not being disruptive at all, I don't know. I ignore her and say he needs to put away the toy once everyone gets their food.

While we are opening presents in a room strewn with wrapping paper all over and my three year old is opening up a candy that he received and lets the wrapper drop to the floor- BIL says "Pick that up and put it in that bowl over there." The whole party has been letting paper fall where it may! The problem is that this puts me in the position of having to enforce or not enforce their random directives and rules.  What they are choosing to nitpick may not be something that I think is worth the battle to enforce.

Yes, if it is something that is a safety issue or egregious, but otherwise, don't correct other people's kids, especially when you are a guest in their home. It can also come across as critical to the kid and parents if you feel the liberty to intervene with their child over minor things.

My BIL tried to correct something else minor my kid was doing and I said "If there is a behavior that needs addressing I will do it."  [/quote]

They probably feel that they and your son are part of the same family and thus they are able to also give him direction. Maybe your kid feels good knowing he's part of a network of adults who are raising him.

If this bugs you, you should teach your kid not to take it personally, that BIL and SIL mean well, etc.[/quote]

Parent is standing there.  Interfering adult has no children.  They shouldn’t interfere.  I vote for listen and ignore with people who have actually raised children, not people without any experience.[/quote]

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